Flown wrote:
My therapist told me last night that she cannot keep me as a patient when I move. We have a month left of sessions, but she cannot legally practice psychotherapy in the state to which I'm moving. There are some states jumping on board with Counseling Compacts, but there aren't many.
I am NOT coping well with all of the recent change, and this was one constant that I had depended on being there for the foreseeable future. She's the only therapist that I've "clicked" with, and she knows nearly everything about me. She has been there with me through some major traumatic events (she took me on in early 2020). I don't want to go back to square one. I don't want to have to show my pain and suffering to a stranger. This sucks so much.
I cried like a baby for the last half of my therapy session last night, and it was so embarrassing. Then cried whilst watching Golden Girls to calm down.
Oh, Flown!!
I'm so sorry to hear this. I can really relate to what you're going through.
Is there no way around it, even with online therapy?
I had a greatly beloved mentor and trauma therapist from 2009 until about two years ago. We spent thousands of hours together and it was the most transformative relationship of my life. He is elderly in his 80s, and started becoming senile. In the end he was only seeing me and three other people. I even helped him find his diapers in one of our sessions. He was like a father to me. He has retired now. I send greetings at Yom Kippur and Hannukah, and I've talked to his wife a little, but otherwise I've had to heal from saying goodbye to that chapter of my life.
It took me about a year to find someone new last summer, online. She was good, but she'll never replace him. I ended up deciding to fly solo a few months ago and I'm trying to manage without a trauma therapist. I might look for someone new again, or I might return to her. My daughter is going through the same, as her trusted therapist has been on sabbatical all year and may not be returning because of health issues.
Sorry for the long ramble. I'm just trying to say that I completely understand how you feel. I hope your therapist can refer you to someone similar, or maybe even assist in the crossover online session? I'm not sure if that's allowed, but perhaps with your consent?
Sending hugs and support,
Issy
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