2 is your lie
My mother went to Tahiti and Bora Bora last year, btw and loved it
I actually haven't read her blog myself, because she overwhelms me with info about NPD whenever I broach the topic (ha). (Kortie: If you see this, recall my Good Will Hunting night?)
I will read her blog myself and see where to go from there in terms of giving you a link, but I'm sure I could assist you with whatever you need. It's stressful for me to read about such vexatious people. I do know of something called Grey Rock which you may want to investigate, if you aren't already familiar. NPD people cannot be cured, much like psychopathy, and it's a dreadful ordeal to detach. I have dealt with a confirmed psychopath and the damage is quite nearly beyond repair.
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