Ever afraid to make a post?

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Not afraid, but I'm more likely to be ignored

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Hmm... yes and no. The vast majority of the time I've never been afraid to make a post here. If I decide I want to make a post or thread, I make it. If I decide I want to share something or make an opinion, I will. There are very, very few times I've turned back from making a post once I've decided to make it.

Where I do become afraid is the reaction after I've made the post, and how people react if they felt a post or thread I made was 'stupid' or caused a drama. I do watch my step a little from brasher, more cocky posters as a result, because that's exactly what someone with my personality is going to clash with and exactly what is polar opposite to me. But it very rarely stops me posting what I decide to post, not on WrongPlanet anyway, after all I never know if they'll respond or not or who will respond.

I have however become afraid of making posts at all on the love-shy forum where I used to post. I do still visit it regularly, but only ever to lurk, as I'm extremely interested in the subject. I stopped actually participating there because it's just a very rough forum, where ad hominem personal attacks are common and not controlled. It's not a place for sensitive people. I think in this case I became afraid of participation in the forum as a whole due to the amount of personal abuse in the forum generally, but you inevitably get some of that abuse if you post enough, and I was hounded and followed around by a particular member an awful lot.

Another one is the City Data forum. That too is one minefield of a place. I made one post there in months, because I felt I had a definite opinion on something and felt I knew the answer to it, and up flew the fists straight away. Wow. But it does seem to be very easy for me to spark off a drama on forums inadvertently. Theory of mind.

It's a shame I refrain from participation on forums about subjects I'm really into, due to the level of psychodrama there. But I guess you could say that because I've ended up traumatised over and over again in my life, I'm nowadays trying to find and close the loopholes by which psychodrama and trauma can get into my life. Forums seem to be one of them.

Often I write a post, and then not post it.
In fact I probably only post slightly less than half of the replies I write.

Sometimes the act of writing is enough to vent, and I decide that I dont need to make it public.

Sometimes I decide that others on the thread have kinda said the same thing.

Sometimes people responde to me in a way that doesnt make any sense to me, so I start to write a request to clarify what they said and it just gets complicated so I let it pass.

Same here, I often avoid the PPR forum because of this. Especially as there are certain subjects that I have an unpopular opinion over, and as soon as I post them it becomes a major piss party over there. Though I did have a nice trolling session on there once, it was funny because of the subject and how easily it was to get the PC types so riled up. But normally I don't care for the drama so I usually avoid that place.

Never. I always say what my thoughts on what has been said are.

If I posted what I think sometimes, it might cause unnecessary e-drama or be taken as an ad hominem.

Yeah, but I noticed ad-hominem attacks run rampant on the PPR site. It's usually indirect, but obvious!

I make a lot of posts (here as well as other message forums) but delete quite a few.

I am actually addicted to the internet, and really need to go do something else.

When debates get heated, which most in PPR do, there is bound to be a few ad hominems.

Often.

I am very careful because I have been banned from other forums for trolling, even though I wasn't. I tend to be honest and say what I really think, especially because it is the internet but, because my thoughts are so weird, many places won't tolerate me. I figure I will fare better here. If I get banned from here I will be deeply depressed. There goes the Asperger's explanation!

You mean "trolling?"

Gotta put the word in quotes there to indicate that it's not true what you were doing.

The answer's no, but on the other hand - I don't start my own threads unless I can first justify them to myself.

I don't know if I was doing it or not. I can't seem to grasp what it is. When I asked about it, people made fun of me.