Whats the worst form of criminality you ever been victim of?

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06 Feb 2013, 6:38 am

Sexual assault. Street harassment. Had my calculator, one bike, one tricycle, one electronic game stolen. My mom's bike got stripped for parts., my dad's wallet stolen. Was physically attacked (nothing serious, just got a bruise on my arm) and blocked by a crazy b***h in the neighborhood.
Never reported any of it. The smaller crimes would just go unsolved and be closed in no time, and the more serious one... It'd be too humiliating to have to retell it and be investigated. The things you go through if you report that kind of thing is as bad as the crime itself. No way was I going through that! I also knew I wouldn't be believed because I froze. "Everyone" knows that you fight back and scream, "everyone" knows that you don't freeze up and hide far inside yourself with one conscious thought: "If I let him do what he wants, maybe he'll let me live". Yeah, "everyone" is wrong.


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06 Feb 2013, 8:12 am

incorrigible wrote:
As more people in our society overcompensate for past victim blaming by automatically assuming guilt unless innocence can be conclusively proved we see 2 trends. One is a positive. Victims are becoming less fearful and are becoming more likely to report crimes. One is negative. Vindictive aggressors see it as an easy way to lash out at the innocent and have started making false reports.

Your every statement in this thread marginalizes the victims of the second trend. You wish it weren't true, and you think convincing others it isn't will make you right. Even if we all start assuming people are guilty until proven innocent, it will not stop the trend. In fact, if we let this trend grow, the result will be that no one trusts victims anyway. Pretending false reporting isn't a problem only helps rapists to avoid consequences, in the end. A more rational approach is to stop overcompensating and take an evidence based approach to such claims. When such an approach is applied, yes, wrongful sentencing is eventually overturned. The fact that innocent people are being wrongfully convicted is evidence that our society marginalizes their innocence. I absolutely disagree that it is fair for an innocent person to go to jail, regardless of whether the error is eventually fixed. It is not fair for a good man to lose his job, or education, or family. It is not fair for him to be forever labeled and treated as though he committed a crime he did not socially, even if the courts take back their decision on paper.

Further evidence of marginalization is that even when it is conclusively proven that the accuser is lying, they are rarely subject to any legal action. If they get caught, it simply didn't work. As a society, we don't care about false reporting. We would rather persecute the innocent than risk leaving a victim unprotected. That in itself marginalizes the victims of false reporting.


Indeed. And being a misandrist, by not really caring that much if men have their lives ruined by a horrible, vindictive cow who is prepared to lie about a disgusting crime like that is every bit as bad as those misogynist scumbags who shame the victims of evil bastard rapists.

Whilst people who claim to be victims of sexual assault damn well should be believed, they should not be believed unquestioningly if serious discrepancies in their story come to light during interviewing and questioning. They should be questioned on these for obvious reasons as it will either strengthen the case through their answers or their case will fall apart.

Now, a lot of women have been raped and the scumbag has done it, but they often don't have enough evidence to be able to bring this to court and prosecute the bastard and just because a rapist is found not-guilty doesn't mean that the woman hasn't suffered a disgusting crime (and an even further insult through the court system). However, those women that are clearly found to have lied about a rape that never took place need the book thrown at them.

I also think that both the accused and the victim should keep their anonymity whilst the trial goes on. Mud sticks, and there is always the stigma of 'no smoke without fire' even if the accused is found comprehensively innocent.

As for nasty scumbags who tell lies about a serious sexual assault and wreck the lives of men, these people don't exist, do they?

From 31 January 2012, in the UK:

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Married mother of four, 41, who falsely claimed she was raped by two soldiers walks free from court
  • Teresa Aldridge had consensual sex with one of the soldiers at a party
  • But she drunkenly claimed she had been raped by him and another man
  • Within 24 hours both squaddies were arrested at their barracks
  • They were 'degraded' as police took blood, pubic hair and DNA samples
  • Alridge later went to the police and admitted she had made up the attack
A married mother-of-four who wrecked the lives of two soldiers after she falsely claimed they raped her has walked free from court.

Teresa Aldridge, 41, had consensual sex with one of the men at a party then drunkenly claimed she had been raped by him and another man.

Up to 20 police officers investigated the allegations and within 24 hours had arrested two squaddies at their barracks, a court heard.


This is only a very rare thing? OK, here's another one.

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Woman who cried rape is jailed for two years after she lied to police just to hide a one-night stand from her husband
  • Gaynor Cooke, 41, told police she was suicidal after the imaginary attack in 2003
  • Her taxi driver lover was due to stand trial next month before she was exposed as a liar
  • Detectives confronted her and she told them: 'You've got me'
  • Cooke was jailed for 2 years for her 'pack of lies', judge says
An unfaithful wife has been jailed for two years - almost a decade after she cried rape just to hide a one-night stand from her husband.

Gaynor Cooke, 41, had told police she was violently attacked by a taxi driver to cover up her fling with him, and her former lover was due to stand trial next month.

No-one was arrested in 2003 because a forensic sample taken from her at the time failed to find a similar profile on the national DNA database.


And another one, from 12 January 2013 in Lancashire no less!

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Former Blackburn policeman cleared of rape

A FORMER police officer broke down in tears as he was cleared of rape.

Paul John Sandham was found not guilty by a jury at Preston Crown Court after just 44 minutes of deliberation yesterday.

The catholic churchgoer had been charged with a single charge of rape between February 1, 2007 and March 1, 2007.

Now, no-one's saying that sexual assault victims shouldn't be taken seriously on this thread. Only a misogynist (or a hardline religious 'feminist' nut, heh) would suggest that. What is being suggested is that there are deliberate and false accusations that are made against people, and that, if found or discovered, they should be taken seriously.

Still, I rather suspect that hyperlexian will go into la-la-land when confronted with this.



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06 Feb 2013, 9:01 am

Tequila, perhaps you may want to actually read my posts instead of drawing absurd and random conclusions based on what you erroneously think i have written. your post directed at me makes no sense because i didn't make any of the claims you are arguing against. :shrug:


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06 Feb 2013, 9:04 am

Sexual assault.


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06 Feb 2013, 12:10 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
Tequila, perhaps you may want to actually read my posts instead of drawing absurd and random conclusions based on what you erroneously think i have written. your post directed at me makes no sense because i didn't make any of the claims you are arguing against. :shrug:

Were'nt you pointing out that there is NOT a trend of women making false accusations? The data (even from your own sources) would indicate otherwise.
In similar fashion, the family courts are well known for what's now called "the magic bullet" - simply have the mom claim the father is abusive or sexually deviant (whether he is or not) - BAM! Full custody. That simple (+90% of the time.)

Because there's usually no penalty for being caught in a lie, there's no incentive not to.



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06 Feb 2013, 12:19 pm

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06 Feb 2013, 1:03 pm

BlueMax wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Tequila, perhaps you may want to actually read my posts instead of drawing absurd and random conclusions based on what you erroneously think i have written. your post directed at me makes no sense because i didn't make any of the claims you are arguing against. :shrug:

Were'nt you pointing out that there is NOT a trend of women making false accusations? The data (even from your own sources) would indicate otherwise.
In similar fashion, the family courts are well known for what's now called "the magic bullet" - simply have the mom claim the father is abusive or sexually deviant (whether he is or not) - BAM! Full custody. That simple (+90% of the time.)

Because there's usually no penalty for being caught in a lie, there's no incentive not to.
no, the data does not point to a trend. a trend is a term that indicates increasing frequency over time, and we do not have evidence of that. there is no evidence that it is more common now than it was in the past.

people are sometimes prosecuted for false reporting, actually. that is the case for all types of crimes, not just sexual assault. you can always advocate for changes so that it happens more frequently, but if you target false reports of rape in particular over other crimes that would be a bit biased.


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06 Feb 2013, 1:18 pm

^^^ Ah... good clarification. So the debate is not about the huge number of false claims, but whether or not that number is growing.

For me, I don't really care if the number is growing... it's so damned huge it needs to be shrinking for the sake of the victims - of both abuse and false claims.

Part of the reason more people don't report crimes committed against them is the fear of not being believed!


Anyways.... don't mean to hijack the thread or play "whose is biggest"... everyone's personal traumas feel awful, even if it's like the bike stolen from my garage when I was a boy. Worse, when you know the perp got away with it scot-free and laughing about it. :evil:



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06 Feb 2013, 3:46 pm

Two assaults. First happened too quickly and there were too many people for me to get a good look at faces, so no evidence for the police to use. Second, I recovered the weapon, must have had fingerprints, but police just weren't interested. Got lucky both times, injuries only superficial.

Last I read about the topic of false accusations of rape, they were no more common in the UK than false accusations of other crimes, about 1 - 2%. Newspaper article, didn't give the source of the original statistics.



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06 Feb 2013, 3:51 pm

I was decapitated in my past life.



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06 Feb 2013, 5:38 pm

Guy threatened me with a gun two blocks from my home.
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Many years ago, hitch hiking, guy wouldn't let me out of the car. Opened the door and ran when he had to stop for a traffic light.

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06 Feb 2013, 7:07 pm

Rape.