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22 May 2013, 4:09 pm

Hi. Well, there's anger and there's bitterness. I think I may have alexithymia because like someone on here said they don't know how they feel or are going to react to something, unless in highly aware circumstances or ones that we ought to be made aware of.
I cant always quote a hoax and sometimes I feel ashamed or upset by some of my thinking or feelings that I cant always place. its taken me a long time to accept that some things aren't always to be and that I do have some Asperger's mild or otherwise.
People have accused me in the past as being too big for my boots or thinking I know things I don't and for knowing too much. I didn't think or was mindfully aware of what I was saying or doing and often thought and perceived that logic was often the best course of action and the answer to most things. That's freedom thinking or whatever it is people think.
A 'normal' person even someone with a learning disability like dyslexia would acknowledge that having money and being liked don't often come hand in hand and are not often the right tools for privatised success or inner salvation. Once experienced, then some of these things are no longer essential or relevant in our daily lives unless someone makes a lifelong commitment to something you care greatly about and will discuss those things with you in a way that makes you feel comfortable.
Yeah, the more I dwell, or like to think about this, the options seem clear.
Asperger's is a condition that has evaded the public eye for too long; and someone needs to landmark some awareness in order to make our inner torment seem as real as it is.

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To experience something once forgotten is rare to live life to the full is extreme and to live someone else's dreams without you in them is just unjust and cruel.



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24 May 2013, 12:42 am

Quite frankly as long as my family okay I only really care about issues concerning animals (cruelty, endangered species) and the environment.

wittgenstein wrote:
Aspies (in general) are not as concerned about conspicuous consumption (fashion etc) as normals. That makes us (on average) less shallow and more moral then normals. We are also more objective.

How does a lack of care for fashion make someone less shallow or more moral? It’s just an interest. Personally I take no interest in fashion and find it rather shallow but I’m sure I have interests that others find shallow (video games? Reading fiction? Daydreaming?) While I don’t understand the deal about fashion, I’m sure it gives them something.
I think Aspies are every bit as potentially shallow as NTs. One good example is all the guys who whine about hot/beautiful girls rejecting them for shallow reasons (as opposed for their deep reason of finding the person hot or beautiful). There have also been Aspies who have claimed to not be able to follow what people say if the person talking has a visible facial defect or bad teeth, because they’re too preoccupied with that to pay attention. Nor do I think we tend to be more objective. We take sides and are influenced by emotions and POV just like everyone else. I think Aspies priding themselves with being more moral and objective and deep are much like countries priding themselves for being great because of something they think they do better than others.
My experience and observations just don’t confirm it.
Me, I can be deep or shallow or something in between depending on mood and situation.
wittgenstein wrote:
We observe our emotions more then experiencing them.

wittgenstein wrote:
When you are angry you are not aware you are angry?

I’m certainly aware of being angry (or any other emotion) when I am so, but I don’t think “Now I’m angry”. I am filled with the anger, and depending on the type of anger (there are different kinds and degrees) I wanna lash out and kick something and scream and start arguments and I very, very much feel and experience the anger. Sometimes to the extent that I have to use a lot of will power to control myself. Strong emotions fill up every conscious part of me and are definitely experienced both in my mind and body.


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24 May 2013, 4:17 pm

Not as much as we do.


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