Would you be offended if someone says "you sperg!" to you?

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I would not feel offended about the word, but I might be a bit annoyed that someone was saying it to me to hurt my feelings. The word sounds too funny to be offensive to me. When I read it, I picture a little drop of something, like a cross between pollen and sperm

Then again, I think it makes a difference that I haven't been diagnosed with Asperger's and never knew that I might have it until recently, so I don't have an Asperger's identity in my mind to connect to the slur. It bothers me when people call me a negative term for something that I identify with, such as my sex.

lol never even heard of that. Anyways when it comes to names like that, it matters who said it and how they meant it. Even calling someone a genius can be done as an insult.

Sperg? Sounds horrible like something else but if it's short for Asperger's, well then I wouldn't be upset. At least they would be acknowledging what I am!

I probably wouldn't even notice. I never knew "Sperg" was some kind of slur for Asperger's.

I'm Jewish, and I was called "Hebe" when I was a kid. I didn't know what "Hebe" meant until I became an adult. "Hebe" is short for "Hebrew," which is a Jewish slur.

I'd ask them, "How did you know?" and laugh at them.

When I was young, we were taught the old "sticks and stones" saying, IOW ignore the person saying the hurtful stuff. Now we want to acknowledge the hurt by elevating the offense level, codifying speech, etc. It has the best of intentions, but I am afraid by doing so we have also empowered and emboldened the bully making those statements as well, and thereby just encouraging more of it.

Cheers, Dave

And what do you think about words such as "spergosity" and "sperglord"? Second one appears to be pretty offensive and mocking.

What do you think about the phrase "a bit of a sperg"? Is it as "strong" as the word "sperg" itself or milder or maybe even stronger in "insulting power"?

New answer after reading the original question again.

And This Is The Right Answer For All Involved:

I guess it depends on 2 things.

Mainly, first and foremost:

* Was it said in jest? Was it lighthearted? Are they usually friendly to you? I have found, even friends can unwittingly say hurtful remarks but their intentions were not malicious. They just f#cked up - as we all do now and again!

I have found, what's said usually isn't the issue. It's the true intentions behind what is said that counts. If they don't mean to be mean, well that's okay but if their comments were intended to hurt, well that's a different story. There's the crux of the matter! What were their intentions/feelings behind them calling you a "Sperg"!

But... Even if it was intended to be lighthearted, it's still a putdown. It's like patting someone on the head and saying in a loving voice, "You stupid person!" Nice or not? It's sort of like passive aggressive!

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