Do you believe in sex before marriage?

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Tim,

I wouldn't really consider your standards unreasonable, and for someone to expect five years of dating while remaining celibate, they have to be out of their minds!

Granted, anyone would want to have a relationship be a guaranteed thing, but come on! Five years is wasting perfectly valuable time (something which we can never regain) that could be spent raising a family, or enjoying marriage. Anyone who wants to spend five years dating, only to decide later on your ties don't match your shirts, and decide to dump you, is clearly certifiably insane.

I'm starting to think it's fortunate I'm single, as this entire state is filled with people I wouldn't want to have my "probe" anywhere within a 2 kilometer radius. I've seen "Outbreak" and "The Andromeda Strain" way too many times, I suppose, but knowing how contaminated and low the standards are for most of the girls around here, I think online interaction, especially behind a fortified firewall, is the best way to go until you are CERTAIN they're the real deal.

It's one thing to be intimate, and I'm one of those who is open to sex before marriage, but it's another thing entirely when a girl uses the terms "experiment" and "alternative" in the same sentence.

Yet another activity that has to be acted on resposibly these days.. Well, for obvious reasons.

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Sex before marriage...tis a difficult one for me. It's something I've given a whole lot of thought, despite the fact that ive never been in a relationship.

On one hand, I am a christian, and in that respect, i am not supportive of sex before marriage.

However, I am also very open-minded, and know this: Marriage in this day and age very near requires compatibility. Compatibility with attitudes about sex and sex itself is no exception. The big question is would waiting for sex after marriage be worth the risk of finding out then that the two of you are not sexually compatible? I would not think so. In this regard, I am supportive of sex before marriage.

Will I have sex before marriage? I won't know until the time comes.

Yeah. . . five years is crazy long to date, under almost all circumstances.

Things would have to be constantly changing a lot in that time for that to make any sense to me.


Of course, I don't understand the people who take a year to plan their wedding, either. If you know who you want to be with. . . why wait? You can have a party later.

This applies whether you're having sex beforehand or not.

What does the time frame and current sexual trends have to do with sex before marriage being a good thing or not?

Did people not have problems being sexual compatible in the past?

The commitment, emotional and personality compatibility seem much more important than sex. Plus it's something you can talk about before hand without actually doing it, if it's that big of a deal.



I agree, if I want to be married with someone... I'd get kind of anxious having to wait for the big party and all the hoopla. Especially considering I am waiting till marriage to have sex. When I decide to marry someone, I want it taken care of as quickly as possible...

I can understand people who wait and I believe in the sincerity when that notion was more in vogue and adhered to. I have no problem with it while simultaneously I view desire in the same way as the Robert Towne script that elevated the schlocky John Woo film Mission Impossible too where Dougray Scott explains how he feels about Thandie Newton as "Well, I AM gagging for it." I'm pretty immune to random people but I think the question is not how deep is YOUR love but how deep is MY love so what I do is based on how I feel more than anything else. I require intelligence and precision and stamina to deal with my quirk so that goes beyond social considerations. The love that dare not speak its name in my case is Assburger with Mayo and Capers.

Not only does my love dare to speak its name, it spraypaints it upon the walls of the ghetto. My love is a desperado that feels no remorse and won't be taken alive. And it's got a good chance of getting away scot-free and laughing about it all over martinis on some forgotten island's sandy beach.

To my ex, she didn't say why it would be 5 years. That was a number she drew out of a hat.

Tim

I believe in sex before marriage.

... and before breakfast, and before lunch, and before class, and before bed, and before being properly introduced, and before...
Basically anytime that one can get it.

I think waiting is completely unnatural and unnecessary. We are animals, as much as you don't like it, it's a fact. Sex is our purpose in life, and that's why we have urges to f**k... once again, religion oppressing people's feelings, emotions and ultimately their freedom. Some things need to be expressed physically, doesn't matter how much you believe in god. Sex is the most natural, normal thing two people can do...

Weird.

It's also quite natural for people to beat the crap out of each other, beat the crap out of those smaller than themselves, commit rape, be dishonest, etc.

Natural is not always the best course of action. In a sense, we're beyond that- which is to say, we can choose to behave unnaturally. . . And sometimes that's the best choice to make.

At the time she said that, we had been together for 3 years. So actually, it would have been a total of 8 years.

Tim

How young did you meet? that can reasonably influence things. . .

No, I've always believed that you should wait to find that special someone before having sex. I'm proud of the fact I waited for my husband, and glad too.

No, abstinence is something that's been pounded into me by my parents, teachers and other figures.
Sex before marriage is wrong. Just like smoking, drinking, and illegal drug use are wrong.