Marknis wrote:
Tired of others downplaying my struggles because apparently they aren’t as bad as some even though it’s clear I have nowhere to go. Even people who have historically struggled tend to have places to go but there is none for me.
This post will probably be ignored like usual since so many here want me gone.
Trying to compare people’s struggles and trying to say that one person has it better/worse than someone else is complete rubbish. Sure, there are some things that need to be put in perspective, but that’s mostly just trivial things, in my opinion (like someone going on and on about how they didn’t get ketchup in their take-out bag for their fries). And complaining about something in front of someone else who doesn’t even have that at all will understandably probably upset the other person. But other people having worse struggles does nothing to actually help a situation. For example, being reminded that some people are homeless doesn’t do anything to help someone who is concerned about having the money to pay rent because they had to pay to have a repair done on their car. Or knowing that some people have more serious forms of cancer doesn’t mean that chemo can’t still be awful for me. Trying to invalidate someone else’s problems, especially if they are clearly upset about it, is just cruel.
I do apologize if there have been times I should have said this elsewhere, I probably missed it. I don’t typically go into romance/relationship threads because I have nothing to offer there, and sometimes I skim through your threads and only really read your posts in them, and not necessarily others. Any ignoring has been entirely unintentional.
Marknis wrote:
I wish I could know from some others if they are still my friends or no longer consider me a friend. I’d rather get a definite answer than be left wondering.
I’m kind of trying to avoid real friendships because I’ve realized that at least without some serious self-improvement I am not real friendship material and I just feel worse if I’m hurting people besides myself, but I do consider you about as close as I get to a friend these days.
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Yet in my new wildness and freedom I almost welcome the bitterness of alienage. For although nepenthe has calmed me, I know always that I am an outsider; a stranger in this century and among those who are still men.
-H. P. Lovecraft, "The Outsider"