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Glad I can be of help here, in some way.

But you're the Wrong Planet's top poster, CR! I certainly don't believe you're unpopular, anyway.

As I said, I do feel unloved, but not so much today.

Though, I don't believe you've explained why yet?

The story of my life! I can't tell you how many times I have imagined that I could somehow be the peacemaker between two feuding groups (life in a small town)--and ended up having BOTH groups furious at ME. It almost seemed like they all cherished their war-making and didn't want anyone to mention the good points of the other side. Nowadays I just keep my head down when the verbal knives fly from one group toward the other.

Believe me... had an experience with that here, yesterday...

I have always believed that intent was everything, but I begin to doubt that.

In the end, I believe we can only do our best.

Hi Feralucce! I had a quick look at the blocked thread about looks or something in General where some disagreement happened. It did look pretty heated and I'm sorry that your good intentions were not understood by other people. I don't want to take anyone's side, but I do understand your frustration because I believe you were truly well-intended. That kind of thing happens sometimes on- and offline. But please don't be discouraged from voicing your opinions. As long as you have a good intention, you shouldn't have to feel guilty or hold back your opinions. I admit I tend to hold back my opinions sometimes just because I can't handle arguments and the subsequent depressing feeling. Not all the people are the same.

Hi PrncssAlay! I know what you mean. The same thing happens to me, too. If I open my mouth, even if I'm well-intended, friendly and polite, I manage to be misunderstood completely and people get angry, rude and hostile. I think it's not just my words that people are receiving from me, but also my tone of voice, body language etc as well. With wrong non-verbal components of communication, you can easily offend people, even if it's their misunderstanding. It's not fair, but it's reality. That's why I tend to avoid getting involved in conversations.

Hi Ten! Thanks for the long post responding to various people! I'm truly surprised that you feel ignored. I perceive you as a funny, friendly and nice poster. So if you are ignored, I think it just means that people happened to fail to pay enough attention to your post, which happens to all of us. I sense all people here are rather fond of you.

Andras! Thanks for the link to the big picture of your avatar. I saw it. I agree with you. The boy is actually smiling. He seems to be actually enjoying dealing with the monsters. And his facial expression somehow doesn't look inappropriate for that situation. Now I fully understand you. I think when a picture is resized such a subtle thing as a facial expression can easily be altered. I also noticed that a cute cat is behind the boy.

Hi equestriatola! I don't think you are unloved. I don't know what makes you think that.

jk1: thank you for your kind words... I will not go into that thread lest I get jumped again... but It is a relief that SOMEONE sees where I was coming from. after the fall out... I actually did have them lock my account, then reconsidered after a couple members sent me some comforting words...

I have found that , in real time, it helps to explain to people that we tend towards dictionary usage of the words and are commonly ignorant of the emotional connotations. I have often cited the words prostitute and whore... by dictionary definition, they are the same... but to people... they are not... if they can grasp that you are not using the emotions they ascribe to these words... they are often open to communication...

but then... some are not willing at all.

I saw that too, Feralucce, and agree with jk1.
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Well jk, regarding the part of your comment addressed to me, maybe it's just me then

TenPencePiece: Thank you. I take solace in a quote from full metal alchemist
"The earth turns on a tilted axis - just doing the best it can."
Hohenheim of Light~Full Metal Alchemist

Guys, please remember that discussion of locked topics is prohibited.
Link to WP rules: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt12459.html

Cornflake: My apology... I wasn't just referring to that thread, though... and I had assumed, since it was unlocked this morning that conversation about it was allowed.

Indeed, I was going to mention that which is why I kept it short

No problems - I wasn't aware the original ("Looks & Personality") had been unlocked, but I see it now is.
The other one (confusingly similar as "Looks and Personality") remains locked.

So er... do please carry on!

Enough has been said to let me know that it was a case of clashing perceptions and not a complete failure of my ability to communicate... so... I will thank all that expressed support and we can move on