Sylkat wrote:
Dear b9, First of all, age and appearance are not a priority on all threads, the priority is neurological conditions and the difficulties living with them. Popularity has to do with feeling that someone understands someone else, of feeling understood, perhaps for the first time.
i know you are correct. many threads however are responded within to popular members more often than not.
i have very little empathy, and while i can understand what a person says about how they feel, i can not put myself into an imaginary situation that approximates their situation, and then feel how they feel. my imagination is not very good. i can process what a person says and i can understand what they say, and i can also have the opinion that it is not fair that people are subjected to their blights, but i can not feel what they feel and i can not say anything that rings deeply true to them.
there was a song once called "happy shiny people holding hands", and it typifies how i am not able to blend in with others on a deep level because i have no identification with it.
i am not blaming others. i am the one with the fault. i just have no capacity to "bond" or "touch base" with people because i am not in their world.
Sylkat wrote:
Age and appearance are shared here on a voluntary basis. No one has to reveal more of his/herself than he/she wishes.
well i do not look bad, and i am not as old as many others here so i do not really blame that for being unpopular. grisha is older than me and he is popular, but he also has much more "soul" i guess than i do. he reaches out and is reciprocative, where as i do not reach out and i am more proclamatory. it is not an attractive trait, but there one goes.
Sylkat wrote:
One cannot be judged on what is not known. Those who choose to share their pictures tend to be very attractive people. Those who do not have their reasons. Some simply prefer to be known for who they really are, which is the person INSIDE the body and behind the face.
some people have made the choice to display themselves even though they are not attractive. i note that they are no less responded to as a result. i also note that some very attractive people seem to be not responded to much (like anetta marie (or whatever her name is)). i think it is more when pretty people indicate that they are sexually minded that they then become stars in a way. (maybe i should edit that out)
Sylkat wrote:
You have been a member here for years and are a well-known, witty, much appreciated part of WP. If you feel you are not getting what you need or want here, we will regret your decision and you will be missed.
that is nice of you to say. it is not likely that i will leave immediately because i am a creature of routine, and posting on WP is a routine i follow when i am too tired to do anything else just before going to bed.
but when i get to my new house, i may find something more engaging to do just before going to bed (like feeding and interacting with possums), and that may displace my need to talk on WP.
i think it is not likely though.
i am like a fly that always returned to what was once a watering hole to drink, but now returns to what is has become a damp patch in the dirt to dip my proboscis in and receive the ever diminishing returns.
Sylkat wrote:
Whenever I think of Swedish office buildings infested with baboons, I shall think of you and sigh deeply.
why? did i post something like that? i posted some baboons in a dump as my wallpaper, and i was born in sweden, but i can not make the link.
Sylkat wrote:
Sylkat
do not cry. i appreciate your attention to, and consideration of me.
i will probably be here for a while to come.
i know you are a nice person.