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Dear AngryDesiDoughboy, Welcome! I hope you soon feel at home here? WP is where you are just a voice, just opinions, just feelings; you can share the difficulties of your neurological condition and offer support to others, because we are all in the same boat here. We share what we choose to, and no more. No one has to share age, gender, nationality, ethnic background, political or religious beliefs, but we can. You can post pictures of yourself, or just be a voice among many....there is a wonderful sense of freedom here, not being judged by the things that only matter to the NT world!

AND your age, and being extremely intelligent? Sounds Iike a few really nice, smart, funny people here....I hope you meet them; Introduce yourself in the Clean Chatroom and 'Say Something Rude' thread; I think you'll find some kindred souls!

Sylkat

*slow clap* Well said!
Welcome to WP!

Welcome to out thread!

I'm having trouble with this thread too, I want to reply but then it just seems so fake saying how is everyone, what are you up to etc...I feel like I shouldn't be saying those things because it's not me and how I talk(I can't really do small talk). I don't know what I should say because there is no specific topic and in the end I just don't post. I keep trying but I just don't know what to say so randomly think up things I've seen other people say in threads like these on other forums. I also feel pressured(by my own way of thinking, not by anyone here) to keep coming back and posting on here because I signed up if that makes sense and I dread seeing it crop up because I keep repeating to myself that I should be posting more in it but I don't really know what to say and it's one big circle.

It's not just this thread either, any thread that have been general ones or games ones such as the tug of war man vs woman thing I posted on that a couple of times and everytime I see it I have a slight panic and think 'crap I should be posting in that more, I'm part of that thread and should contribute more' and then I wonder if people notice I'm not posting and think badly. Like in this one I really really tried at the beginning but then it got so overwhelming with so many people posting and I literally went raaah what do I do (hand flap) and then after a dozen or so pages I started worrying people would think I was horrible for not posting more and not in the way I did initially...yeah maybe I should just shut up now because my minds racing now and I'm sure everyone will think I'm a complete idiot now

^I'm not quite sure what to say, but I don't think you should feel bad about it and you're not an idiot.

well i do not know whether i am popular or not (actually i do know that i only get responded to by a few people generally), but that is not the point.

the point is that i originally saw this thread as a harbor where people who were not as witty and as able to carry on with innuendo and banter might come to say simple things that were not laced with inferences and other things that are impossible for me to perceive.

i can not understand many posts in this thread, and they seem to be quite happy posts on the face of it, but i am perplexed as to how they are relevant, yet they get responded to by other people who are "in the know" who understand exactly what was being inferred.

i am like a weed in a plantation of flowers and they grow over my head and the sun shines on them because they are gifted with the "insider knowledge" that i do not have.

i remain in the dark with my banal observations because they are quite basal, and maybe i am seeing it incorrectly.

when people post videos out of the blue and they say "your post reminds me of this", i mostly have no idea how any reference can be gleaned.

but i am not unhappy about it. i just note that wherever a group of people gather to talk, people with an advanced ability to be witty and entertaining seem to follow and then take over the microphone from lesser peoples hands.

i also can not generate small talk because it is not interesting to me. i do not feel guilty about abandoning threads that i started to contribute to. there was a thread called "say something insulting to the member above", and i started by saying insulting things and i got a warning, and then i watched the thread over a couple of weeks and it became apparent that everyone was actually complimenting each other, and i did not perceive correctly the spirit of the thread. after another week, my email notifications that the thread had been further responded to stopped, but i noticed the thread was still happening, however i gave up bothering to even read anything in that thread.



i have no qualms about resigning from conversations. i do not think anyone notices anyway. if they did notice, and they were perturbed by it, then they would say something to me to lasso my attention back into the discussion, but it never happens (which is good because when i resign from a discussion i am not interested in it any more and i will not reply no matter how much someone tries to encourage me to)

Dear b9 and Az29, I personally do not see WrongPlanet as abiding by the 'conversation' rules of the NT world. Write what you want, when you want, if something no longer interests you, a topic or the direction the conversation takes, as was well-stated 'I do not feel guilty about abandoning a thread that I started to contribute to'. WrongPlanet is supposed to be for the neurologically diverse. specifically, different from NT people. We are not identical to each other, even if we have identical diagnoses. We are EXTREMELY different, can I quote a favorite quote?

'I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine...'

I wish that no one here felt any other way than that when visiting WP. You are both members here, you have your viewpoints, which matter, and you have feelings, which matter more.

Sylkat

I understand what you're saying. I think people can feel "out of the loop" as it were for all sorts of different reasons. I often can't gather my thoughts together to write posts which express exactly how I feel, like now so I'm afraid that's all I can say at the moment.

Dear Identity, Perhaps when something has been said so perfectly, as you just did, there is nothing TO say, so the rest of us read your posts, say a silent 'Hear, Hear!', and go on to the next thread. Perhaps it feels like not being answered, but no one is actually ignored and there is no intent to. You and b9 and Az29 are part of any group you choose, and the extent of your involvement is always appreciated, but no one on WP should feel any obligation or guilt....we, as ND individual's, have enough problems and don't need to get any bad feelings here, of all places!
Sylkat

I'm just dropping in to say hello. I feel out of the loop, because I'm older than the majority of the regulars here and I don't have the same interests or brains as the younger ones. I don't wish to change, either. I had my wave of popularity in 2005 and 2006. It bothers me when people confuse post count with popularity. It also bothers me when I'm attacked on account of my post count, or a new member starts a thread asking if a person's post count can be reset, and I know they're talking about me. I have a lot to say and I like to welcome everybody and connect with as many people as I can. I may find that I might not be able to connect with everybody, though I like to try my best.

Dear Mick, You forgot to add that you NEVER fight with anyone!
If you have, I've never seen the posts!
That's another thing that makes you a nice person.....

Sylkat

Hi Az29 and b9.
Hi everyone.

^^^ I feel this way too.

But just writing "hi" to members here make me feel good because I know they also feel like they don't get responses often, and it's just nice to be acknowledged.

I think what I appreciate the most about this thread is exactly artrat's OP #1:

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Hi Sylkat...I like this quote you wrote, so I hope you don't mind that I am stealing it

Dear Goodwitchy, I hope you get as much out of that thought as I do! I try to remind myself of it, periodically; I quoted it a few weeks ago in another thread, and Cornflake was able to find and share the entire quotation.
Which I have forgotten, again.

Sylkat

I also never fight with anyone.