Do you believe in sex before marriage?

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Are you aware that this, read as sarcasm- and possibly without the "no" out front- is seriously ammusing?

So its been pounded into you. Does that make it right? Smoking, drinking, and illegal drug usage is unhealthy, but it is ones free choice to want to engage in them, just like premarital sex. However, if you take precautions, sex on the other hand is healthy for you, whether you are married or not.

Do you believe in sex before marriage? Yes, of course.

However, it depends on each person, wether they want to wait or not, what works best for them it is Ok, as long as there is no pressure about it, wether it is about waiting or about doing it, and what is the thing that you feel is right for you and your partner.

That's my opinion.

Absolutely. You NEED to have sex, and plenty of it, in various situations and multiple positions, before you get married. You need to know if youy're on the same page in the physically intimate forum. Can you imagine getting married to someone and finding out that person finds your fantasies disgusting? Boy would that be a disaster!

Dude your image of reality has been skewed by TV...

And NO!

Just because you have a choice doesn't mean it isn't wrong. Everyone has the choice to make right or wrong decisions in their life. Also, I don't agree that sex outside of marriage is healthy. It goes against the way God designed us.

"Wrong" is a judgment call in most cases. It is subjective, if it does not cause harm to the self or someone else.

Killing someone is wrong, as it causes harm to someone else, as an example. Even if you make that decision, because you wish to save your own life, that doesn't mean it was a "good" thing to take a life, merely the best decision you were left with.

Bringing religion into anything as a source of validation is a bad choice. It will cause any discussion to break down into nothing more than a "My view of religion and my beliefs are more correct than yours" party. If you believe something to be wrong, or evil, or whatever due to your religious beliefs, great, more the power to you. Telling others that they are in the wrong for not holding the same beliefs....good luck getting anywhere with that.

^ Agreed.

Hey, I'm not trying to convince anyone I'm right. I'm just stating my own beliefs here.

Choice? Don't you mean Opinion?
You have your own opinion about what is right and what is wrong, that's Ok, it works for you, but not for everyone.

and comparing sex outside marriage with illegal drug use?......

I found the drugs to be more rewarding, in all honesty.

I don't care if people have sex before marriage as long as they are not loudly hypocritical about it BUT this does bother me - when men put their hands on women's waists in public when they are not in an official relationship. That looks horrible to me. Is it because I am an aspie that I should have such a reaction? I knew a woman born in the 1930s who felt the same way because she did a bit of an eyebrow raise when she saw it in public. My parents also each thought that was so ret*d looking. Now I have not only seen an obnoxious picture of Mr. Sensitive Ang Lee doing it to actress Tang Wei but those Affleck brothers are doing it to their costars at promotional photo ops.

Seriously, fellow aspies, do any of you feel as I do that that is so stupid to do and so stupid looking?

I MIGHT accept it if French actors were doing it and it looked like French buddies on the red carpet but ick when I see Ang Lee or Both Afflecks at the same time doing it. They don't have that casual savoir faire to carry it off. It takes generations if not centuries of authenticity for it to be natural and not obnoxious looking.

(omg do I sound really aspie right now?)

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Again, this is just my belief. but we as human beings cannot decide what is right and what is wrong. Only God can do that. If something truly "works" for you, but not someone else, I wouldn't use the word "right" to describe that thing.

well, as I found out that what is considered RIGHT and what is considered WRONG, varies depending on different cultures and also with time, and all new information gained through time, makes humans see things differently than when lack of such information was before, those a lot of views are changed because of that, you have your belief system, but you can't deny that even that has changed or accomodated over the centuries. Also your concept of what is right or wrong is not the same with different denominations.

It is not that simple, obviously if we get a bad consequence, it is because of something wrong was done, I don't know what is your belief about sexuality, but denying teenagers and children information they need to know about sex, it can also end up in a bad consequence, so it depends on a lot of factors, not just saying that sex outside marriage is "sinful", that wouldn't do it. But then, your views are different from mine.