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It can get a bit annoying.

I'm not a "person of distinction"---but I believe people listen to me sometimes. And I'm sure they listen to you, too. They just don't tell you that they listen to you.

How do you feel about people talking on their cell phones on public transportation?

People on bluetooth really annoy me, but mobile phones in general are used inappropriately by most people. People should remove themselves from public groups and not speak at full volume on a phone call. They should be as brief as possible in public settings. Phone calls are meant to be private, and it's bothersome to just hear one person's side.

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I agree that the one sided cell phone conversations are a new normal that I wish we hadn't transitioned to in society. Regarding bluetooth headsets: I know some people who have the little bluetooth earbud cell phone microphone that they plant in their ear literally from morning to night day in and day out. I can't help but think there'd be a worry of brain cancer doing that.

Would you rather roast marshmallows or hot dogs over a campfire?

Hot dogs

Did you know that it went down to Minus 46 in International Falls recently?

Yes I did. International Falls, colloquially known as "I Falls" to people in Minnesota, typically competes with Embarrass, MN for having the coldest temps on average in Minnesota and often in the lower 48. I Falls is a border town with Canada.

Do you enjoy swimming in public swimming pools?

I don't really. It's a rare opportunity I realize but for all the criticism which could be given to someone for not knowing how to swim I really think more ppl should realize how much of a privilege (and a potentially expensive one at that) it is to learn to swim given how fairly uncommon pools are. I think that given the nature of changes in public transportation ppl should stop looking down up on those who don't know how to ride a bike. That isn't to say that either should be dismissed as forms of fun exercise.

I kind of feeling something similar like that when it comes to travelling--it's a fairly luxurious privilege of an undertaking and most ppl would only concentrate on going to areas where they can be attended to, even if say language barriers weren't an issue. Hence consumeristic intentions entrenched in the post-colonial tourism industry.

If there is no afterlife does revenge seem all the more justifiable to you given how their will only be one opportunity to establish getting a message 'back' to someone who maltreated you and has little qualms about repeating that again?.

I don't have any desire to seek vengeance on people. I just have never thought that doing so would make me feel any better.

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No. In my opinion, the best form of 'revenge' is ignoring them. Show them that they are nothing to you, that you are a successful intelligent and happy individual, that their actions did little to affect you, that you are unfazed, and that you are even stronger and better because of it. Maybe even go out of your way to forgive them. To people like that, the worst thing you can do is stand back up, brush it off, and keep moving forward. Prove to them that you are better than them in every way and it'll make them feel so much worse than any physical act of revenge you could think of. It also leaves you feeling better and much more guilt free.

Do you hold grudges or are you a naturally forgiving person? Is there anyone in your life you are unable to forgive?

I'm generally forgiving when it comes to others. I have a harder time forgiving myself for some of the stupid things I've done.

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Same and to the question definitely reconnects to what I asked before. My resentment to Italian ppl for bad experiences in a non-public high school has a context in having practiced the Catholic 'sacrament of reconciliation' before it dawned on me that all these years I was taking bandages from the same ppl who hurt me. Believe me when I say that this has made for a consistent topic in therapy only more recently being superseded by job searching concerns which makes sense since I actually graduated community college.

True, forgiveness doesn't sit on the same 'theologized pedestal' as it did before but it doesn't really make it easier to understand. 'Forgive' is the same word as 'pardon' in Spanish and I still find forgiveness in practice to be semi-flimsy permissiveness to grant leeway for things to continuing changing. As I have realized with the help of others, the other outcome of 'condemnation' is worse. Pain still remains as does a fear of judgement; if I say that forgiveness isn't romance does that help anyone?.

It might seem that I am 'naturally forgiving' (as someone once thought of me) but when I learn and practice assertion...=_=. I bear grudges towards the first and curmudgeonly high school math teacher who was two years from retiring and passing away, the one after that who was bizarrely ethnocentric, arrogant and a de facto real estate agent the whole time, a now woman I used to have feelings for who I stopped seeing months before the 'Obama era' began and when I saw her around the end of it calling me 'weird and awkward' again and ignoring me like she did when I was 16 that made me seether so horrifyingly I had a breakdown and sought help --- the former two are the sorts of ppl whose uncaring towards who there's 'clients (students) are have no f---g idea as to how it affects others in the future in terms of job possibilities when you already had an idea of what you meant to be.

Unwittingly and apathetic factors/'cogs' in destructively indifferent social mechanisms--expecting caring is hoping for to much. Don't get me started on my dad or that 'self-acceptance' non-sense which might 'near-ontically' be the same as (self-)forgiveness..I don't trust easily when I see discrepancies in temperament and reciprocation in others. I've seen too much irresponsibility, I will always see too much irresponsibility.

'Short answer' is no I don't. I am highly prone to grudges and resentment.

Are you ever afraid that people will get bored of you?.

Not really, Im too weird to not be interesting. But get sick of me......definitely.

Whats the craziest thing youve done for money?

Money, research subject (not "crazy")

Many strong, long lasting grudges. My precious lil "parents" had the nerve to compare me to my sister. They laughed at my buzzcut. Homophobic.

Dead over three years. Still grudge

Mister redelings had the nerve to tell me that, it is "lying" for you to ask me to call you "he" instead of "she". He refused to call you by your "boys name".

San Diego 2006

He totally missed the point

It is not a personal favor. It is "discrimination". (EEOC 2012). But he was not at work

Do not forgive homophobic ass holes

Dog owners

Idiots that say "what" instead of "excuse me"



Spoiled upper middle class brat from aikido

Aikido instructor, for letting the brat in

People have always been bored of me

Phones are annoying

Hot dogs

Temperature, no

No swimming












What have you not gotten over?

I have not gotten over all the lack of education n time i have to catch up on.

It makes me mad at myself n also despair n want to avoid n procrastinate bcuz i dont want to face the reality


I thought i had also not gotten over the lawyer being mean to me throughout n lying to me to exacerbate the situation n not intervening n helping despite knowing what my XH was doing n how it had affected even my sons health
n law clerk lying about me

but today fr the first time I didn’t mind
So hopefully that is no longer on my list!

Is there a WP member you learned from, and what was it?

I could speak of many but not the least b/c of personal messaging 'cathylynn'.

If you were allowed free life-long access to any one grocery food with no limits on amounts which could be attained in one instant, what food would it be?.

I'd corner the market on salt or sugar. Neither spoils and both are always in demand. It would provide me a livelihood of independent wealth.

If gazing at, watching or staring at strangers you find visually interesting was not a social taboo, would you stare at people you see?

I already stare at people without realizing till later
I try not to but if I am stressed and in an oncoming shutdown mode it happens

What book would you recommend other WP members to read?