Feralucce wrote:
Butterfly88 wrote:
Feralucce wrote:
Yeah... I've been on this site for a few years... I posted something that is terribly important and I need help with... and the thread died...
It's...upsetting at best, heartbreaking at worst... especially since I have tried to help everyone i have come across here... to the point of taking hour upon hours to make the blog series that everyone says helps so much... and... when I need help... there is silence...
It makes me feel worse than when I was in college before the NTs realized that I was too weird and awkward for parties.
Post the link to the thread here and I'll see if I can help. If not I'll at least boost it.
i appreciate the idea... but I am far too injured for it to be of use at this point... (none of this has to do with the fact anything here)
Feralucce i hear you, i can sometimes feel the same, i often feel this when i post on a thread and suddenly my post becomes the last for eternity! lol, feels like im killing the thread!, also i do get intouch with some via private message but rarely do they reply, again i dont know why? maybe they forget, maybe they feel shy, maybe they feel they dont share similar interests etc, i will likely never know, but still you feel a tingle of sadness inside saying, yup, ive done it again! ... I think many on the spectrum are misunderstood and i think this can also be the same here, misunderstood by the misunderstood, its rather paradoxical! but with that slight sadness i have to giggle!... I know about giving your energies out and being demonized by the same individuals you have helped, i have done this in real life my entire life, i have only helped people, i ask for nothing in return other than a little human dignity, but alas, sometimes even this i dont receive in return... The bottom line is the human race is a very confusing place to be, even for NT's sometimes but more so for those on the spectrum, but we also have to be aware that any paranoia we create in our minds as we try to find answers to why people respond/dont respond , can be just that, a paranoia, and your thoughts may not be true to what they feel/think... They maybe just having a bad day and want to reply later oinly to naturally forget, or they may have an emergency they need to deal with, so some thoughts you may persuade yourself as being true when infact they could be totally opposite.. It is easy to imagine what makes more sense to yourself and sometimes that can be a negative thing, i am also guilty of that, but there have also been many times i have presumed something only to find from that person latter on it wasnt at all what i was thinking.. Try not to bog yourself down with those negative thoughts, i am still also practicing what i preach, but if this s,mall hint opens another window to an ideology that you dont have that in some way may help a little then i think its worth typing!
Also to AnonymousAnonymous, im am very sorry for your loss, and feel for you greatly! Again as mentioned people can be rather heartless in their words and actions.. You know your history and your loses and i dont think you need to spend the extra energy trying to convince those that likely would never care even if they did listen, its a good indicator to stay away from these people. as for your good gay friend, give him a call.. Seems your mother is a little delusioned about the modern day facts of life and is quit common for that generation. If you had a good, healthy connection then no matter what anyone says, even family, you know what makes you happy, dont spend all your energy trying to please others, because it is often a lost cause.. Be you and be happy! and the same goes for everyone!