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I've had people agree with me. I'm not sure I've ever had people like me.

Welcome back.

I like you.

I appreciate it.

Just running across this thread, and figured I probably should post in it. I'm new here, and haven't interacted much, so I'm neither popular nor unpopular at the moment. But every other forum I've ever been on, some for years, I feel like I'm on "Ignore" for most people and I can't understand why. I'll answer a question on page 2 or 3, no one will interact in any way, then on like page 7 someone else (sometimes a person with less time or less post count or whatever) will say the same thing, often in the same words, and everyone "like"s the post and quotes it with agreement etc. There was a recent thread (on another unrelated forum) where I answered a person's question, he did what I had said, then on the next "page" of the thread (with only about a 24-hour difference) he posts something like "Oh, I did that thing from page 1. Can't remember who posted it, but it worked. Thanks, whoever posted that." Umm... Am I overreacting when I feel snubbed there? I mean, it's been less than 24 hours, and even if you can't remember, you're on page 2 of the thread, you don't have to dig through 50 pages of crap to try and find who posted the advice that just helped you. Right? Anyway...
I just don't understand it, and thought maybe someone would be able to help here. So far, WP has been good, but I do honestly find myself hitting "Cancel" rather than "Submit" most of the time. Some part of me is afraid the same thing will play out here. So I suppose I'm posting in this thread in the hopes of figuring out "how to be" on a forum, because I don't seem to know, and I don't want this forum to go that way. Just once, I'd like to have a group of people I can be comfortable with, and it seems like it may be more likely here, but I'm still afraid of falling into the same pits. Anyway, thanks for reading if you did.

I've had people agree with me. I'm not sure I've ever had people like me.

I know that feeling well. When I contribute to a discussion, often it doesn't matter if I'm on topic, if I'm arguing well, if I've introduced new facts, views or ideas, or even if I've provided the verifiably correct answer to a very simple question. The discussion just continues as if I was never there. That's IRL as well as online; with NT as well as AS people. I'd count it a victory if one of my ideas was accepted even unattributed!

I have figured out the perfect murder: I just need to say to someone, "Hey, don't step out in front of that bus." They'll then only consider whether to simply step out in front of it or to hurl themselves screaming onto the tarmac- not stepping out will no longer be concievable.

I can say I like you, and am happy to see you back.

I know that feeling well. When I contribute to a discussion, often it doesn't matter if I'm on topic, if I'm arguing well, if I've introduced new facts, views or ideas, or even if I've provided the verifiably correct answer to a very simple question. The discussion just continues as if I was never there. That's IRL as well as online; with NT as well as AS people. I'd count it a victory if one of my ideas was accepted even unattributed!

I appreciate it.

I even defended you in one long thread, but as in above, nobody paid any attention to my posts.

Once I was alone in a room reading. Someone popped her head into the room, said “no one in here” and turned the light off.

I relate very much. I call it “social invisibility,” people don’t run into. e or try to sit in a chair I’m sitting in or anything, but otherwise it’s just like I’m not even there. Also both IRL and online for me, with both NT and ND people. If more than one other person is present IRL, poof, I vanish. Online, often I’m unacknowledged even if I’m the only one who replies to something. I’m just, well, invisible.

Some years ago a certain WP member got angry at me. And as he lashed out at me he accused me of being "one of the most loved people here on WP".

So...sniff...I guess ...cant join this club.