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Constantly... Especially the way I drive

And increasingly so as I age and my body slowly succumbs to entropy...


What's the best thing that ever happened to you?

Without sounding maudlin, I can honestly say I've never been able to answer that question.
The good things in my life didn't happen to me.
I had to work my arse off for them.
Even then, they ended up like a double-edged sword, causing much hardship.
Nothing "great" has ever happened because I don't have very good luck.

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Unfortunately I'm with Isabella on this one. The closest thing to a break I've gotten is I was born into a family that could send me to college, though I did that mostly with scholarships and loans. All the things I did to sustain myself kinda worked, but also drained me, and if I had to do it all over again, I'd take random change over doing the same things.

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I struggle to come up with an answer as well. It's not that I feel I've not been fortunate, it's more that the peaks and troughs of my life haven't been that extreme so nothing sticks out as particularly good or particularly bad. At least in my perception of it.

I'll tell you a good thing though. I was editing a magazine and the owner was hard to deal with and one day she left. That was good in itself but the best part of it was that one of the things she contributed was reviews of 5 star hotels and spas. So that fell in my lap. Over the next couple of years I got to stay at ridiculously fancy hotels, eat insanely expensive food and get free massages and stuff. That was a good gig for a while.

So if you can't think of the best thing, what's something good that happened to you?

I inherited a shedload of money from my grandmother when I turned 23. That sounds great, right? Well, it's all relative (no pun), because that's the reason my abusive exh married me. He was gay but didn't admit that to me until he had matrimonial rights to my cash. He admitted in court that he expected to get half of the money and half the value of the house which I bought, along with all our furniture and stuff. He contributed nothing toward the downpayment or the mortgage payments and in fact he was unemployed when I bought the house, unknowing of what would later transpire.

That money is long gone to lawyers because he's fought me for 25 years and cost me half a million bucks in legal debt, along with traumatising my kids in the process. I'm sure I'd be much further ahead financially if I didn't get that money, because I had a good job which eventually earned six-figures. If I didn't have to give my entire salary to lawyers and to daycare (being a single mother), I'd likely be pretty well off today.

The second good thing was that I got my job and it earned me a pension, but see above about the fact I didn't get to keep any of that money, and I also had to work 40-60 hours a week without accommodations whilst also raising three disabled kids on my own since 1997. That gave me a clinical nervous breakdown and my first stroke, and nearly killed me. I'd likely have done better working ten hours a week at the local McDonald's without a pension, because at least I'd have money in savings, and I wouldn't be buying new cars for solicitors for the last several decades of my life.

Having my kids should be up there on the Good Things scale. I love my kids and don't regret having them (or adopting one of them), but it's not like it's been easy. Most of the time I'm near collapse and feel like a failure. Their mental health has suffered as a result of all the hell I've been through, which wouldn't have happened without the inheritance.

My pets? Sure they're good, but they didn't happen to me, and they're driving me into the poorhouse between insurance premiums every month, prescription food, and vet fees around $5,000 / year just for my dog alone.

I really can't think of anything good that's come without immense hardship and struggle. Maybe my ASD has been a factor but I think most of it relates back to my abusive ex using me, and setting me up on this path of lifelong pain.

Hehe, sorry seems like that one hit a nerve... Best thing that's happened to me is without a doubt my daughter.

How about who's your favourite movie/tv/cartoon character?

Special Agent Dale Cooper.

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Ruth Fisher, Six Feet Under





Cartoon: Pooh Bear



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Leonard Powers, Wizard of Social Services from Ugly Americans

Do you still live in the town you were raised in?

No.I moved a lot when I was younger. I have lived in a fair few countries and lots of different cities. I haven’t been to the city I was born in for 30 or so years.

Have you done any sort of martial arts?

No, but I'd really like to. I've managed to avoid serious fights in my life for the most part, but the ones I have experienced haven't gone well for me because I'm uncoordinated and have no idea what I'm doing. But I'd like to have some idea of what to do. It's something I'd like to do with my kid, I've looked into family sessions before but can't justify the cost at the minute.

What's your preferred shoe fastening?

Laces.

Do you ever wear jeans?

Never.

Do you ever wear hats?

In the winter and when outside, yes.

Do you wear slippers indoors?

no. imo homes are for bare feet, socks maximum.

if you could suddenly instantly speak, read, and write it, what language would you choose to know?