Well, according to a defense attorney who's willing to speak on my behalf pro bono, my venting frustrations here doesn't count as slander and since I'm unable to find gainful employment, or indeed any employment whatsoever, and have been abandoned I'm actually set to receive alimony payments even if my wife isn't employed - whomever she is a dependent of will be required to pay on her behalf. I don't want to go this route really, I just want to remain married to the woman I love, but if she's going to remain in unforgiveness then this is a route I can pursue. Also, although I religiously forgave my brother in law of the actual libel which he had posted publically and without anonymity upon my facebook wall, legally I could also seek action against him still on that one. I don't wish to do this, and I hadn't back then because I prefer to forgive and maintain relationships and my wife whom I love urged me not to sue him back then. I can still, but I would rather not. I just would like to stay married to my wife and have our relationship continue for all the many decades of our lives, but the choice isn't up to me. I'm not going to rush through the divorce paperwork as my brother-in-law demanded, but give as much time as possible for my wife to heal emotionally and hopefully return and our marriage can be restored. I hope that's the way it works out, but to the merciful they will be shown mercy and to the ruthless ruthlessness. I love my wife, I really do, and I hope we can go on and be happy together again. 115 my Turtlekeeta, please come home my lady I really do love you.