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03 Jul 2019, 5:15 pm

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Its my birthday today. Im 29. Can I have my mid-life crisis yet? :bigsmurf:


No, but you're running late for the quarter-life crisis.


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25 Jul 2019, 11:07 pm

Do you think men aspies and women aspies have different issues from each other?



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25 Jul 2019, 11:14 pm

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Do you think men aspies and women aspies have different issues from each other?


I think that men and women have different issues anyway. AS not only manifests differently in men and women, their basic differences and position in society give rise to different coping mechanisms.



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26 Jul 2019, 10:53 am

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Do you think men aspies and women aspies have different issues from each other?


I think that men and women have different issues anyway. AS not only manifests differently in men and women, their basic differences and position in society give rise to different coping mechanisms.


This is likely partially true, but if you were to Venn diagram the issues you'd see heavy overlap. The impact and severity of issues will likely be weighted differently though. We're different, but we're still the same species suffering the same ailment.


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02 Aug 2019, 6:57 pm

Does anybody believe that both having any neurological challenges and being in the male gender role make it a moderate or large obstacle to the opposite sex? Even though I believe neuro-atypicals aren't limited and could do anything a "normal" person can do, there are still a significant group of ND guys who struggle a lot with that. Even many NT guys say they struggle too. For men it's still the norm to be independent and living on your own once you get into your 20s and many NDs still struggle with that.



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02 Aug 2019, 7:23 pm

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Does anybody believe that both having any neurological challenges and being in the male gender role make it a moderate or large obstacle to the opposite sex? Even though I believe neuro-atypicals aren't limited and could do anything a "normal" person can do, there are still a significant group of ND guys who struggle a lot with that. Even many NT guys say they struggle too. For men it's still the norm to be independent and living on your own once you get into your 20s and many NDs still struggle with that.



I was raised and schooled in the skills of the Samurai, something that carried over to my career from which I am retired. So I would agree with the warrior tag. As for independent living and being on my own. I don't mind being alone as a matter a fact I prefer it.


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02 Aug 2019, 9:59 pm

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Does anybody believe that both having any neurological challenges and being in the male gender role make it a moderate or large obstacle to the opposite sex? Even though I believe neuro-atypicals aren't limited and could do anything a "normal" person can do, there are still a significant group of ND guys who struggle a lot with that. Even many NT guys say they struggle too. For men it's still the norm to be independent and living on your own once you get into your 20s and many NDs still struggle with that.


I don't understand the question.



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03 Aug 2019, 1:46 am

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Does anybody believe that both having any neurological challenges and being in the male gender role make it a moderate or large obstacle to the opposite sex?

yes.



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03 Aug 2019, 1:52 am

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Does anybody believe that both having any neurological challenges and being in the male gender role make it a moderate or large obstacle to the opposite sex?

yes.


OK, what's "it?"



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03 Aug 2019, 2:01 am

being in the "uncanny valley" and creeping them out. a long-ago shrink told me that i would have to learn how to convincingly ape NT behavior in order to change this.



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03 Aug 2019, 8:56 am

Hollywood_Guy wrote:
Does anybody believe that both having any neurological challenges and being in the male gender role make it a moderate or large obstacle to the opposite sex? Even though I believe neuro-atypicals aren't limited and could do anything a "normal" person can do, there are still a significant group of ND guys who struggle a lot with that. Even many NT guys say they struggle too. For men it's still the norm to be independent and living on your own once you get into your 20s and many NDs still struggle with that.
I've made lots of threads in L&D in the pasts about mine & other autistics guys struggles with relationships. I do think it's generally easier for autistic women to get dates than autistic guys. There's been a lot more autistic guys complaining about being single in the L&D section than autistic women. However I do think autistic women tend to be more likely to end up in abusive relationships or relationships where they're just used for sex. There are also LOTS of exceptions to these things.


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03 Aug 2019, 9:23 pm

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Does anybody believe that both having any neurological challenges and being in the male gender role make it a moderate or large obstacle to the opposite sex? Even though I believe neuro-atypicals aren't limited and could do anything a "normal" person can do, there are still a significant group of ND guys who struggle a lot with that. Even many NT guys say they struggle too. For men it's still the norm to be independent and living on your own once you get into your 20s and many NDs still struggle with that.
I've made lots of threads in L&D in the pasts about mine & other autistics guys struggles with relationships. I do think it's generally easier for autistic women to get dates than autistic guys. There's been a lot more autistic guys complaining about being single in the L&D section than autistic women. However I do think autistic women tend to be more likely to end up in abusive relationships or relationships where they're just used for sex. There are also LOTS of exceptions to these things.


Yeah, I know. I wish the men and women hear just swapped genders for a time and walk through life in the "other" shoes.

It's sad too because other posters accuse the guys of having malevolence to the opposite gender or subscribing to some kind of thought pattern related to that. That is just a knee jerk. Both genders suffer issues, but they are mostly different set than the other. I don't like the attitude about it lately.



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03 Aug 2019, 10:02 pm

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Does anybody believe that both having any neurological challenges and being in the male gender role make it a moderate or large obstacle to the opposite sex? Even though I believe neuro-atypicals aren't limited and could do anything a "normal" person can do, there are still a significant group of ND guys who struggle a lot with that. Even many NT guys say they struggle too. For men it's still the norm to be independent and living on your own once you get into your 20s and many NDs still struggle with that.
I've made lots of threads in L&D in the pasts about mine & other autistics guys struggles with relationships. I do think it's generally easier for autistic women to get dates than autistic guys. There's been a lot more autistic guys complaining about being single in the L&D section than autistic women. However I do think autistic women tend to be more likely to end up in abusive relationships or relationships where they're just used for sex. There are also LOTS of exceptions to these things.


Yeah, I know. I wish the men and women hear just swapped genders for a time and walk through life in the "other" shoes.

It's sad too because other posters accuse the guys of having malevolence to the opposite gender or subscribing to some kind of thought pattern related to that. That is just a knee jerk. Both genders suffer issues, but they are mostly different set than the other. I don't like the attitude about it lately.
I know exactly what you mean. That has been going on since I joined this forum. There seems to be phases. I've been accused of being a misogynist on there before as well as other sites for making lots of frustrated posts about my issues with being single. I'm actually kinda a feminist thou. Nowadays terms Incel(involuntarily celibate) are being thrown around instead of the misogynist term.


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03 Aug 2019, 10:24 pm

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I know exactly what you mean. That has been going on since I joined this forum. There seems to be phases. I've been accused of being a misogynist on there before as well as other sites for making lots of frustrated posts about my issues with being single. I'm actually kinda a feminist thou. Nowadays terms Incel(involuntarily celibate) are being thrown around instead of the misogynist term.


I was around Feminists from birth until 15 years ago when I realized that even their name is sexist. If they were serious about equality, they'd be called Humanists. Their leaders are the rare androgynous people who were the first to look for opportunity outside the home as its functions were steadily eroded by the industrial revolution. When I was young, there was still a lively debate on which human habits were the result of Nature vs Nurture. The feminist cult has quashed all such debate for decades now, imposing the myth that humans have no inherited behaviours that are gender - linked. Basically, under Feminist equality, men and women are held to be exactly the same, except the men are wrong.



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29 Aug 2019, 2:51 am

Buy a dog but a random one, buy a f*cking predator, like a Pitbull, Rottweiler or Staffordshire. When you take such a beast for a walk, you'll feel confident as f*uck.



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29 Aug 2019, 4:04 am

out in the sticks where i live, folks are armed, and aggressive dogs have been shot. i carry bear spray with me, as i have been attacked by such aggressive animals that were uncurbed.