Do you have a hard time grasping adulthood vs. Childhood?

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I hate that just because they are younger there behavior is more excusable than us we're expected as "Adults" to act like "Adults" For example If you tell a child not to go in the woods or they'll get hurt and they say oh well and disobey well that's there own fault right? This may sound stupid but what separates Not wanting to do your homework IMO (well you want to become a doctor) so then the child would be motivated to do there work since they want to become a doctor,but my mom says if she let the children not do homework she'd go to jail etc. IMO if I have to take the initiative to lets say do job appliactions to get a job I HAVE TO DO IT! Then Little Jimmy needs to take the INITIATIVE that Hey I need to get this Homework done learn X stuff if I want to become successful and become a doctor. I hate the adult/child behavior difference!! !! !!

I do, too, but to a certain extent.

I hated doing homework as a child because I did not see what it got me. But now, as an (*gasp*) an adult, I'm returning to school because I want to and because I feel that I can do it. I also agree with the "wanting to be a doctor" motivation thing. I feel that when a child has the motivation, they will do what needs to be done.

Also, I don't understand what makes an adult. Is it the responsibilities (e.g., owning a home, paying bills, etc.), or how one behaves (maturity, etc.)? And personally, I don't agree with either--though many people have told me that responsibilities and maturity are how one becomes an adult. I know of a few people who are still teenagers who are responsible and mature, myself included (when I was a teenager). I've always felt old and I've yet to get a satisfying answer.

Ah, there's a difference? Chronological age and your minor trappings of society are such poor examples.

I've known old adults who behave remarkably childlike (different types, some with childlike innocence and enthusiasm, whereas others with the "it's all about me and nothing I do affects you!" thingy). With children who're very adult-like on the opposite end.

I am a 60 year old man. A father and a grandfather. I am the "head" of my family.

But there are times that I just want to curl into a ball and yell "I want my mommy"

In other words you never really grow up. You just have to suck it in and ACT as if you were grown up because other people depend on you.

There's a saying that I heard once: "An adult is just a child who has learned how to behave in public."

Adults have had more time than children to learn how to behave like adults; to learn about consequences of behaviour and other such things. They also generally have more developed brains than children.

Problems arise when for whatever reason, someone has a diminished ability to learn from experience/apply said lessons to their behaviour, or when their brain has not developed according to "normal" expectations. If you look like a "normal" adult, most people expect you to be able to do everything that a "normal" adult does, no matter how difficult it is.

First reason because a child doesn't have the same reasoning then an adult, for while you grow you go through many intelligence stage and some adult actually never reach the last one. So cannot ask a child to think like an adult for they have yet to reach the ability to be able to think in such a way.

Second because a child yet to learn some of the thing, so asking them to act in a correct fashion is like asking us to always behave the way NT want us.

One of my friends here told me through PM having Down's syndrome is easier than having autism. I wonder why?


Maybe it's because people with autism look normal so people don't know they are different so they expect more out of them but people who have DS, people can see their disability and know what they can do is limited so they don't expect much out of them and they cut them some slack for their behavior.


Someone who has very bad autism, you can definitely tell he or she has something but if you're milder and more high functioning, you look more normal and people can't tell you're different.

My friend even told me it's easier to get work when you have DS than it is for people with autism. I also wonder why?