Do you want children when you are older?

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I voted Maybe

I voted yes, maybe about 2/3. I'd like to have my first in my early to mid 20's, that's if I'm in a relationship then of course. I've fantasised about having kids of my own since I was small and I'd tell my mum how I'd look after them, but of course being a child I said things like "they'd do what they want and stay up really late!" lol but I don't think like that now.

Children? Yes!!I love them

Husband? Err,,i'm straight but...no thanks (He'll just be a pain in my neck!)

..but I would still prefer a child from my womb than adopting one...

what do you think of artificial insemination?? (lol,I'm still 14 y/o..there's still alot of time to think )

No, I don't want kids when I'm older, or even when I'm younger. I'm 40, and it's entirely possible my eggs are addled anyway, but even if not, I don't think it's going to happen now.

I'm actually OK just being around kids. Babies are cute, relatively uncomplicated little beings who don't really care if you can't do smalltalk, as long as you can do farm animal noises. But, I'm very glad to be able to hand them back to their parents. And I have an instinctive aversion to being around babies at the pureéd food stage - seeing a baby being spoonfed actually makes me feel slightly sick.

I also know, from dealing with small nephews, that I'd have trouble setting boundaries with kids. I think one thing is that I can see things from both sides. My own childhood was stiflingly formal - sit up, back straight, speak when you're spoken to kind of thing. Basically my parents expected adult, absolutely conformist behavior, and they believed that constant criticism and humiliation were 'character-building' and would turn me into the kind of person they demanded me to be. Naturally, I'm not a big fan of that kind of child-rearing, which I hope is rare these days anyway. But, I can also see that letting a kid control your life to the extent that you can't go out for a meal because they'll scream the place down...that's not OK either. It seems (to me) an immensely delicate balancing act to make a child a decent human being without sapping their confidence or crushing their spirit. Lots of parents do manage it, and credit to them, but with my baggage, I don't think I'm someone who could do it...and I think I'm far better off not having kids, than having them and screwing up their lives one way or another.

Absolutely not!

I'm asexual, so Iwouldn't want to do anything to get to the part of conceiving. Furthermore, I don't wanna be pregnant or give birth.
The thought of bringing up a child, teaching it moral and values, protecting it from danger (paedophiles, drugs, crime, rape, etc) are not tempting at all. Wiping noses and behinds, changing diapers, persuade it to eat. Hosting parties. Screaming and yelling. Wondering how the heck to handle the child when it challenges you, be it the tantrum of a 3-year-old or a provocative teen.

No thanks!

Not at any age have I understood or gotten along with children in general. When I was 14 I sometimes looked after a 6 months old baby boy and I thought he was great. So great that when my class had a 4 day long practice period, I was sent to a daycare center. I liked the children there, but I was extremely awkward with them, and I never was at ease around them. I was very uncertain how to handle them. It’s hard to say for sure, but in retrospetive I wonder if one of the boys there might have been an Aspie. I recognised myself strongly in this boy while the employees there didn’t get him at all. He wouldn’t talk to them, but he talked to me…

I looked after my cousin's daughter when she was just under 2 years, and we got along fine. Now I have no idea how to deal with her and her brother.

Aged 14-15 I wished I had younger siblings (probably because of the baby boy), a dream I hadn’t had since I was about 7. Aged 16-17 I actually wanted children of my own. I must admit, though, that I had a fairly romanticised, unrealistic view of what having siblings or children would be like.
Aged mid 20's I had a short term longing, which was mostly realising that I'd never have a toddler of my own, feeling somewhat nostalgic. (Yes, you can feel a sort of sorrow for something that never was.)

Now I understand very well that this is not for me and I have long since come to terms with it.

I have children and grandchildren. I am trying to hold on till I can hold a great-grandchild in my arms.

ruveyn

I'm not planning to have any children for a long time. Children costs money to raise. Even though my mom would like to have a granddaughter.

Yes, but I think it's due in part to this strange biological urge that I've been feeling...

Just got the last 2 out the door and into real life...I'm done...

I want to have kids someday, but I mainly want to adopt because there are SO many kids in the world who already need loving parents. You know? I am not against having some that are biologically mine, but I think I'd only do that if my husband (whoever that may be) really wanted some of his own. I'm a very nurturing type of person, so I don't think I'd have a problem.

But I won't be having any kids any time soon, because I'm not married, I'm poor and I'm practically still a kid myself. Such a kid that seeing "Razz" as the code for that smiley just made me giggle.

This would contradict my plans to destroy the entire human population.

I definitely want children, one or two at the most though. I don't know whether I would adopt or not. I would love to have a kid of my own, but I fear that I may give my daughter or son Autism (I know it's not all genetics with Autism, but I know that one sibling with Autism will more often have another sibling with Autism)

I wouldn't mind if my child had Aspergers, but I was severely Autistic as a little girl and I don't know how I would cope if she was that Autistic.

But then again, adopting has some risks for disorders and diseases too, I can't avoid them by adopting.

I want to have some. I planned on one kid but maybe I'll have two instead. I'll just see how well I can handle having one first.

I think it would be nice. Of course, I have a long time to decode though. But I probably will want children when I'm older.

I don't want children until I'm in my late twenties or early thirties. I'm not particularly fond of children or babies in general, but I'm quite fond of the younger siblings of my close friends and I'd do my best to be a good mother if I had my own children.