if i was your son

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so, hypotheticaly, i am 16 years old, long hair, gay, sopport same sex marriage and to make marijuana legal, drink, listern to punk music, and currently converting to islam.

now, say you were my parent, what would you do?, would you support everything above, or would you try to change me to the way your parents raised you?

(Hypothetically... I'd need to be a lot older, heh.).


I wouldn't agree with you on the marijuana bit, but I wouldn't try to change your opinion.

The drinking.... I wouldn't allow that, because, quite simply, it's illegal. Could you not wait until the legal age to drink?


Everything else is cool, though.

hi tk5800, let me start by saying wow... that's quite a lot to process.

i will do my best to accept you however you wanted to be, as long as no laws were broken. so, no underage drinking, smoking cigarettes underage, and no dope. period... but then you know what i was doing at 16 and you laugh off my feeble attempt at direction .

so, ok son, you may drink, and er "smoke" at home under my supervision and under no other circumstance, that is final... and no, i am not looking to use you for dope, i really don't like the stuff at all. cigarettes are just filthy, they are bad for your health and you get no benefit, i quit three months ago after 14 years (no, really). spend the money on something less harmful - like LSD. .

...but understand this, the goals that you have and what they mean to you is something i will protect with great enthusiasm - if your capacity to function and achieve those goals is diminished in any way i will have you locked down harder than you can imagine. the freedom i am giving you is conditional, i expect one thing, respect... not only for me, but for yourself. what do you want out of life? i will help you make it happen... and, in all seriousness, i ask you this; why do you need drugs (alcohol, dope) to function? they are not essentials for life, please also provide a cost-benefit analysis justifying your position on drugs. i need you to be very conscious of the decisions that you make and their repercussions... after all, it is your developing mind and your developing body.

while i am heterosexual i am fine with you being homosexual and with same sex marriage (let all share the grief of divorce ). please always practice safe sex, if you are anxious about buying protection or would like to speak with someone (not emotionally attached as i am to you) that can help you with any questions regarding your sexuality i will work with you to help you as much as i can. that is what parents are for.

your taste in punk music is a-ok, just no sugary angst pop posing as punk please... real punks spit on the audience . and while we are on the subject of music you should take a look through my collection , you may be pleasantly surprised.

finally, you wish to convert to islam? well, ok. i am (as you know) an atheist, but that does not mean i cannot see a structured set of morals and some direction for life packaged as religion, it may be just what you need. from my own experience i explored spirituality as part of a 3-4 year obsession, taking in as many teachings from as many forms, reading as much as i could before i made up my own mind. you deserve the same freedom to explore your identity in the way that i did, if you find you are nourished (satisfied) by the way of islam then i will be happy for you.

...but (and there always is something), you may find that islam is not so accepting of your pro-substance stance (alcohol, dope, cigarettes) and your sexuality as you would like. i suggest that you look for a very liberal mosque, with a very liberal immam.

The only thing I might have a problem with is the drinking, and that all depends on how much you drink. Drinking at 16 is not a big thing to me since (a) I was doing it way before then, and (b) MODERATE drinking (as in what was accepted from adults) was totally the norm among teenagers where I grew up....even in the presence of parents. I have a million reasons why I think the US needs to lower its drinking age, which I'm not going to get into, but I'm not the biggest fan of going out and getting ossified every night, since it destroyed a lot of people I know, myself NEARLY included.

As for the rest of it, no issues. I myself am 50/50 bisexual and support gay marriage, support decriminalizaton of MJ in the US, and so far as religion and your appearance is concerned....that's totally up to you. You're young, but you're old enough to look into all options regarding these things. You also, just based on this little bit of info, sound a lot less troublesome than most of the kids your age that I know.

I don't think a homosexual who drinks alcohol is going to be welcomed into the Muslim community. You might need to rethink that one. Drugs are bad, Mmmkay. so don't do drugs, Mmmkay.

^ Erminea, you are just a lunatic,
and you need a strait jacket even more than me, if that is even remotely possible!




tk5800, I apologize for being flippant in your serious thread
(the same thing happened to me the first time I asked a serious question that was
important to me, and I was utterly discombobulated by the reply - )
Sorry!



There is only one thing that I can seriously offer to you
and it is, of course, a quote from Shakespeare :

"Be true to thine own self"


Hope that makes up for my self-indulgent mockery!
I'm sorry!

Since you seem to be trying to discover who you are, you may want to try it straight (meaning not high, not referring to sexuality).

I am not opposed to recreational use of alcohol/marijuana (personally I am not interested in either), but life choices are usually best made with a clear head. You will also (more than likely) gain more support from those around you, and they are more likely to take important decisions you make more seriously .

Id new a few more years to my life before that

PUNK MUSIC >=U

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