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I'm so confused about life right now sure at first I need to focus on getting a job but then what?

Learning to drive (and for what getting a vehicle paying for it and going places but you're so busy paying off your vehicle you don't have the money to go anywhere!! !)

home/apartment (and what live alone maybe get an animal? I'm in my 20's I SHOULD HAVE FRIENDS!! !! !)

College (#1 thing I REALLY want but the cost even AFTER getting a job and hopefully staying in a dorm perhaps

Finally debt to get all 3??? and how much debt? I'm so confused on what to do first!! !! I want to get my own place (I think my main power struggle issues with my parents is my AS traits are an issue to them. Getting a vehicle gets me out of the house but for what? My family take me anywhere I need to go!! ! and sure the whole stay home do school online but my parents put there foot down IF I WANT TO STUDY PSYCHOLOGY I'M NOT DOING IT IN THERE HOUSE AND I'D HAVE TO MOVE OUT NO IF'S ANDS OR BUTS!! !

Aiming for those 3 things at once is going to be a big pain =P
What's the background with your parents and them not wanting you going to school and living at home?
I know it's so much easier said than done, but what about the possibility of some kind of part-time job somewhere that would pay for public transportation costs to your local college. Dont know where you're living and what the public transportation situation looks like, but that could be an option.
Schools these days will also do all the financial stuff for you, getting you loans and such, you just gotta sign the papers and forgot about having to pay anything till you're done =P.

Thanks Willa. if I went back to College perhaps obtain my AA degree first then continue from there. Sadly I can't get financial aid so we'll see how things go.

Once you are 24, you can apply for financial aid independent of your parents. In the meantime, you could get a studio apartment or a room for rent near the college you plan to attend so you won't have to learn to drive or spend money on a car. Make sure you have a bank account in your own name and file your own taxes this year (don't let your parents claim you as a dependent.)

It sounds like having friends is really important to you, and the lack of understanding from your family is the thing that bothers you the most. If you spend the next year working on establishing an independent living situation and making some friends, you would increase your potential for personal happiness by a lot, even if you don't get into college. And if you DO get in, you'll have a good shot at qualifying for financial aid and you'll be able to study what you truly love.

Oh!! ! I turn 24 in March!! ! Cool!! ! (Hope 24 is for the U.S aswell!) I'm on SSI disability so my family does claim me as dependent. I'm looking for a job soon so hopefully that works out. You're right making friends is important to me (no offense) but unlike other Aspies who cut back socializing,etc. I want to get out there and get to know people and make friends (IMO I come on too strong that's a behavior I need to cut back on) Luckily I've learned of AS and my trait issues and can maybe apply some advice from WP so I don't make behavior mistakes but I definitely don't want to hide the rest of my life. Thanks for the uplifting advice.

Happily

I thought being on disability actually opened you up to a lot more government grants and funding? I had my first year of college completely paid for, no loans or anything, because my dad was on social security disability. That was 10 years ago (holy crap, it's almost 2010? lol) and I know Bush cut millions out of college funding, but I think if you look into it there should be stuff for you. I had a cousin who got crohn's disease when she 30 years old, she was out of work for years and took that time to go back to school, got her bachelors and masters in that time and paid barely a penny out of pocket.

I'm gonna get ahold of an uncle of mine who sits on the board of alumns at a big university, ask him if knows some more information on where to look. But, call up your local college admissions office, try to set up an appointment (some of them will even offer to meet you at your house). It doesnt hurt to talk about it. Those people are rated on how many students they bring in, so they are going to go out of their way (or should anyways =P) to do everything they can to get you into school.

And like Ariel said, once you are 24, you are considered an adult going back to school and the amount of financial aid available to you triples.

Cool. Ya I read an article that some aid is upwards of $5000 dollars!! ! I'm aiming for a job then go from there I have some debt to pay first. But I REALLY want to get back in College. Thanks again!!

I take in oxygen to break down glucose to releashe ATP to run my metabilism

I try to live sustainably, and in style.

My thoughts are to save for everything and pay in cash so that I never have the debt looming over head as well as interest rates. Basically I'm living a life of used cars and community college education. whoopee, people get by without extra schooling as it is. Plus I prefer used cars since most of the older cars look better.