What on earth?! Can some one please explain this nonsense?!

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Hello I am a 14 year old girl who lives in Melbourne. I was diagnosed with Asperger's at the age of 9. I always felt something separated me from other people, however I just couldn't work it out. The other children would often call me a "geek" or "odd" Until I finally knew what was wrong and became slightly surprised. But I don't do too well with fitting in at school either currently. I've become fairly quiet though.


There is this boy at school who I totally despise and dislike. He has always attempted to tease me since year 7. I know his methods too well so I now am capable of out smartening him. A girl in my class who is friends with him asked me today "Oh do you think he's hot?" She has asked this before but I have always refused to answer. I personally do find him rather attractive to look at. But I then finally said "Yes I admit it but I don't like him" she said "Yeah he is I know. He's babe as" And guess what she did? She later went and told him when the bell went for the next period. He then said "Hey do you think I'm hot?" and started making such a big deal out of it as if I asked him out or said I like him. But what I don't understand is how other girls make these comments on his Facebook picture on his attractiveness and he or others doesn't make such a fuss about it. How is it any different if I think so? Or I if I made a comment. I notice on Myspace girls make comments all the time on the photos of boys like "Oh you hottie!" "Looking good" "Hey sexy" or "You're hot" And no one ever makes such a silly commotion over it like it's just something normal. But if i were to do it they would act like I said I like him. For example "Do you think so and so is hot?" (insert snicker) But I never really voice it unless some one asks me. He just acts like it's something fascinating and stands out from when other girls think it. He gets on my nerves so much! But it can be awkward and I sometimes don't know how to react to when he questions me this. I myself though have been told by people I'm very beautiful. I do think to myself "Why would any boy be interested in me?" It might be my "weirdness" that puts them off. Or because I'm a loser.

That's just people being ignorant. No wonder so many of us can't get along with our peers.

High school is not an easy time, but it ends. Some classmates vanish, a few even grow up.

Forget the loser line - at a disadvantage in your current setting yes, loser I very much doubt.

Note this - odds are at present the people who are going to find you extremely interesting in numerous ways A have not met you B have not quite recognized you - I can testify the recognition happens quickly but does not always become consciously available at once or C at present are scared off by the negative attention focussed on you - I know of one case who was quite interested in my sster but backed off because the Mob would have started on him.

The reason people react differently to praise "in real life" is because, on sites like Myspace, compliments and statements which usually indicate a romantic or sexual interest, are dispensed like rabbits dispense poop pellets and lose a significant portion of their meaning. Whereas such compliments carry their full weight in the real world; in the minds of adolescent youths such comments invoke a response that I like to call "annoyingly overexcited".

strangely enough, he may be attracted to you. Boys that age do incredibly stupid things to get girls' attention (I remember...sheesh.. They can be utterly without a clue, some wise up later, some never do.

That's teenagers for ya. Just ignore the idiots.

And welcome to WP!

I think gossip (as long as it's not about me) is HILARIOUS! So many peopel have anoyed me.. I view it all as payback! They deserve it... I don't know the motives behind why that girl did that to you... but I do stuff like that becasue its funny.... but then I'm male... and most of my freinds are kind of perverts...

He's asking to be kicked.

These people who were cruel and often dismissive of me in high school are always requesting to be my Facebook friends now. It is like they forgot how much they hated me for being "different". Probably they just grew up and forgot how mean they were. I was only friends with a few people in High School. The others do not matter. You will see even a month or so after graduating that they don't matter. You have bigger and better things to do in this world. Screw them.

I recommend you don't answer questions like that with these girls any more. They are so catty and cruel and are just digging for something to tease you with.

I don't miss high school, one bit.

neither do I.

It's a weird game some NTs play, complete with the "in-betweener" who sidles up to both parties, pestering and whispering, trying to get reactions. I personally just reply with non-committal stuff like "I suppose some people might like him".

I think they're allowed to make lascivious comments about his attractiveness because they are in the same social strata; a mild agreement to their assessment on your part is seen as a laughable attempt to insinuate yourself into their level of thinking. (Which they perceive as superior. They will feel threatened and will thus cover it up with shrill hilarity) It is sort of a form of sarcasm that they asked you. The part where they told the guy must have been some kind of self-benefitting manuever that no one can explain to me. You can't win. If you ignore them, that kind of gang-like group tends to unanimously agree that you're weird and unsociable. If you respond you cause yourself discomfort and you give the rest of them something to target and blow out of proportion for their own amusement. It's like SilentScream said.. it's just a game. My ramble is over..