What do I do with the unoccupied ritual?

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For the last several years, my day ritual has included talking to the internet friend who isn't speaking to me. We'd converse around the hours of 9pm-12 am. Sometimes later, sometimes sooner.
Now whenever that time comes, I start getting depressed. Not only did I lose my friend, but I lost a huge part of my routine. Like right now. I start feeling really lonely, and sad that he doesn't talk to me anymore. And then I think he's probably not feeling the same, and I start wondering if he's slowly caring about me less...
And then I can't go to bed after saying good night to him and stuff. It feels incomplete and lonely.
I know I should occupy it with homework, but I feel too depressed to be decent at anything. You know how you always need to complete one step before you can move onto the next? It's like that, and that step never gets complete.

*sigh* Anyone else this faily?

If my wife and I don't get to say goodnight (1600 miles apart at the moment) then I have a similar experience. Have found writing a note or an email, even if I don't send it, helps complete the 'circuit' for me at times though it hasn't been 100% for me.


M.

Yeah I've had similar experiences in the past. I try to occupy that time with something else, usually playing a quick game or something to ease my mind.

don't let other mere mortals depress you so. don't waste your energy thinking about somebody for whom it cannot be guaranteed that they are thinking about you in a way you'd like- this sounds cold but it is meant sincerely as cold comfort. one should hope that absence will make your heart grow colder [more indifferent] rather than fonder. since other people tend to not be amenable to one's own wishes, it is more profitable to concentrate one's energies on one's self for whom one can directly make changes to better suit one.
chase the sad thoughts away with happier thoughts. an average person's brain can only hold one complete thought in working memory at any given time, so it might as well be a good thought rather than a bad one.
take care
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Maybe you could find someone else to talk to? I know it probably wouldn't be the same but you might make some new friends to talk with.

What constitutes being used?

I rather be used than gather dust.

Find a book to read.

Well I guess you were indeed using him. I don't know why you'd care then if he stopped talking to you.
That is rather lame. If I was him and found out that was why some girl was talking to me, I'd ditch them.
Would that still be your intent in talking to someone else for a change?

lol if you're a jerk I don't get why anyone would stick around.

u should probably apologize to him or something.
no use trying to carry on the deceit if it's already
been found out by him anyway. i don't exactly get
the sense that ur heart was broken by this tho,
since it was only a ritual, so i think u shd just make
amends and move on with ur life. just my 2 cents.

I remember when that happened to me, though it wasn't a ritual. It was the happiest time of my day.

Noooo!! !! ! I think you got two guys mixed up. The guy I was "using" was not the one this thread is about. I really wanted someone to talk to, while the guy this thread is about, and I weren't on good terms. I realise now that was a mistake, and I was essentially using the other guy. Which is stupid, and I won't do again.
The guy this thread is about is someone I love. I was just addressing the ritual factor of it.