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I'm not sure if this is wrote in the right place but , what would you do if your own mother said to you she wished you had died and not your dad? Mines said that to me and she meant it x

I know this isn't a very good reply, but I myself would probably end up thinking "The same to you too!"

I don't feel that I should talk about my mum, like that over the Internet. We have our disagreements, but I love her, very dearly. Anybody who said that to me, wouldn't be seeing any more of me, because I'd go my separate way.

Hi Perhaps the Haven Forum would be another good place for your thread.

That's incredibly harsh of her

How long after your dad died did she say that to you? Was it during a heated argument? Who is Mines? How does she know that your mum meant it?

Have you got someone who knows you both very well with whom you can analyze the comment? This could help you get another perspective and some answers as to why your mum might have said something so harsh to someone who is as dear to her as you.

Grief makes people behave in ways which are very unlike themselves. It's a very complicated feeling with a large array different behaviours.

I'm sorry that your mum felt that she had to say that, to you.

I'd probably say f*ck you, go to hell, I hate you. Maybe something a little less dramatic but just as mean.

Well it wasn't an arguement I don't argue back I don't really say anything , she just starts shouting half the time I don't even know why , and that was 5 years after my dad died. She's always seen me as an outcast and so did my dad my brother on the other hand was loved and they would do anything for him. She just hates me and I don't really know why and I can't try talking to her cos she only shouts and she's always right no matter what even if I know she's wrong, she calls me names all the time and a bad mother , but infront of people she acts nice and makes her self out to be a supportive loving mum and she's far from it she even had my 6 year old tellin me I was lazy and I cared more abt my husky than my boys which isn't true at all x

Oh, I see..well, you know, maybe putting some distance between you and her is the answer. More importantly, putting some distance between your boys and her is vital. She sounds toxic. It doesn't sound like she'll ever be any different.

PS: I did read your OP incorrectly. Mines? I now see that you meant Mine has...sorry hehe...I could now post this on the awkward moments thread