Is this weird??

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I went to get my blood work done (get my blood drawn/lab work whatever you might call it) and I saw 2 empty seats. The place was fairly packed so I chose to sit alone by myself. My older sister sat on the other side. They did my blood and I was done. When I got back in the car my sister was like "Why did you sit by yourself isn't that weird? I said I didn't know I didn't think about it. Honestly at the time I just saw that was away from the crowded area (sure off in the corner) but I dislike sitting and people between me (if it's family such as at a movies/somewhere it's fine). So I ask is sitting by yourself "weird?" Thanks.

I don't think that it's weird to sit by yourself. I sit by myself in doctors offices, all the time.

Thank You.

I was under the impression that most people prefer to have their space.

You know there's an unwritten rule that if you are a guy and there are 3 urinals in the bathroom you don't hog the middle one, if there are 4 and 1 guy is already there you make sure to keep one urinal between the two of you, etc. I would say the doctors is worse cause people are sick and coughing and sneezing. I don't know that I've ever seen anyone in a doctors office elect to sit side by side a complete stranger.

I don't think it's weird to naturally pick a seat away from others. I'm not sure I'm not weird under normal standards though. Naturally I feel uncomfortable sitting next to random strangers so I always seem to try to position people I know or empty space between me or strangers. If I can't I don't freak out... I just feel very uncomfortable. I think it's less weird to sit apart from people in a hospital or doctors office though. Even normal people seem to try and stay away from others in a place full of people with possible spreadable illnesses.

I sit alone sometimes too. I'm not always in the mood to pay any mind to social codes and language and all that non-verbal behavior stuff and what other people might think of me, so I DON'T always flip my social switch ON and I sit alone with my thoughts.

I don't like it when people sit next to me and then all they want to do is talk, talk, and talk. Then I feel like I have to be social and talk back when I don't always feel like talking and listening. I will sit by myself and away from others when I feel like that, in hopes NO one will come and sit next to me. Most of the time it works but I serious believe some people act like me sitting alone is a beacon signalling them to come sit next to me and talk.

I believe your sister questioning your decision to sit where you did is ridicules. You should be allowed to be yourself. You weren't hurting anyone. Even if you hadn't paid any particular attention to where you sat, I believe it's silly to try to make something of it.

There is a wonderful old man who's name is Charlie and he lives across the yard from me. He likes to sit out on the porch and smoke his cigars or pipe and watch the World in peace and so do I. We always acknowledge each other with a silent wave. Maybe he is an Aspergian too, I don't know? I had one neighbor comment about how strange me and Charlie are, always waving but not speaking to each other. It really irritated me. Why do some people think there is something wrong with you just because you don't always want to sit right next to someone all the time and talk for hours!?!

I'm so glad that woman moved and took all her problems with her.

Same. I'd find it strange for a stranger to sit beside me if there are other seats...and I'd find it annoying too.

Interesting, I don't mind it when people sit beside me on the bus when there isn't an places to sit by yourself, but if there are MANY places to sit, I find it a little strange. If I know the person, it would be fine.

I found this seats on the bus, that people don't often sit in!

Interesting, I don't mind it when people sit beside me on the bus when there isn't an places to sit by yourself, but if there are MANY places to sit, I find it a little strange. If I know the person, it would be fine.

I found this seats on the bus, that people don't often sit in!

I feel that way too.

THIS

Some aspies may have a different concept of personal space than NTs. I know that I don't like sitting right next to people in a doctor's waiting room or even on a bus. No, you're not "weird". It's just the way we are.

Nothing weird about it at all. I tend to do the same thing.

I don't think it's weird but many people do.

What your sister may have meant is
Why did you choose a seat where she couldn't sit beside you.
As family who decided to go with you, she may have expected that you wanted to have her there to keep you company / talk /etc. She may have felt you didn't appreciate you being there, because you sat apart from her.