I seem to always give the wrong impression to people

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It seems I am having major difficulty with people everywhere always being irritated with me because they probably think I am cold and insensitive or that I talk too much. I speak my mind regularly on here and it seems people even on wrong planet are irritated with me. Although it is hard to tell online if people are really irritated but it is based on their words and many people end up ignoring me because I tend to just make comments that do not relate with the main topic of discussion on a thread; tangents basically.

It seems like everyone else on here their comments are usually more brief. I really get into it with people on here and some actually start completely ignoring me and it upsets me. I mean I generally like to reply a lot to people and I think it ends up over powering them or something. It is frustrating for me because I always end up getting upset or feeling bad.

I have even had meltdowns because of what people have said on here. Just some really really rude and insensitive people that make attacks and then refuse to respond when I tell them they are being rude. Sometimes they say I am making an issue of everything and they say I want to be 100% right. Mostly incorrect tough.

I mean I am pretty direct as well. And I generally speak my mind and do not filter out some of what I say.

Anyways just a very frustrated "aspie" who just cannot seem to get along with people very well. I tend be alone most of my life. I mean I have had friends and good ones at that. It seems as I get older though my friends are few and far between and I think it is partially my ignorance of certain aspects of other people. And I just cannot understand other people's emotions very well. I am very self-conscious and almost self-centered.

So anybody feel this way please tell me what you did to stop the behaviors. I so wish there was a cure for this problem. I mean it is so hard to see the benefits with AS when you are being bombarded by all the negative aspects of the AS differencen. Honestly the only people who can understand what I am saying are "aspies".

Sorry if this should go in the autism thread.

Yeah, this could probably in the GAD thread.

I think I can relate to what you are saying. I get misunderstood a lot IRL. Unfortunately I cannot offer any advice to you because I'm still myself struggling. In my case I'm very nervous around people and often that nervousness seems to be mistaken for anger/rudeness or some other negative emotions. Also my nervousness itself and weirdness make people uncomfortable/dismissive. I'm disliked/avoided by most people at work. It's very frustrating and sad that I get treated in that way based on other people's complete misunderstanding.

When you feel ignored on WP, it's not necessarily because people intentionally ignore you, but often because there are so many threads/posts that they can't respond to all of them. I think most people do feel they are often ignored. I myself feel that way, but I'm pretty sure that people are just too busy with too many threads. So I suggest that you not take it personally. Also IMO, long posts and disorganized posts can put people off. It's also always best to try to be relevant to other people's points in a thread. If you can't say something relevant, you had better not respond.

When someone responds negatively/rudely to you, the best way to deal with it is to ignore that post because someone who can be like that is most likely willing to pursue the argument. You may end up just feeling even more stressed if you pursue it.

I also think you should visit the "The unpopular WP members club" thread, which is a sticky thread (always near the top of the first page) in the Random Discussion subforum if you feel unpopular. It's a nice thread where people acknowledge one another and be positive to other members. I also hear there is a subforum called Haven or something. It might also be a good subforum.

I hope what I said in this post is relevant to your issues.

In any kind of writing you have to edit.

Stop and think.


For example: I hate it when people here are longwinded, but then I succumb to being longwinded myself.

So I stop and think about my thing before I hit the submit button. Often I then realize that I am making several distinct and unrelated points in response to the same one thing someone said. So Ill just cut out most of what I said so the public only has to digest one of my great pearls of wisdom at a time (Lol)!

Just pick the one main thing you wanna say. Save the rest for later.

Looking before you leap also helps you to see how others might take what you're saying the wrong way (ie be insulted where no insult was meant). So you can stick a disclaimer in before you actually post it.

Hope that helps.

Also- if you check your profile and click "find this person's posts" to get the list of all of your own posts- that list shows how many people have seen each of your posts. So if you feel ignored you can actually see how many hundreds of people have actually seen each of your posts.