my worst Bday ever (nobody loves you when you're 23)

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nothing went right. all my plans fell through and the next day when i tried to reschedule with my parents they said they were to throw a BBQ for my little sisters boyfriend that night for HIS birthday....to which no one invited me. i then spent about eight hours chopping off my long blonde hair into some strange short "creation" of mine... i didnt even want to or plan to do it. my hair had ( for the past decade) been a sorce of great pride to me... i greatly regret what i did even while i continued to do it. i cryed and vomited for the next two days. now i am just totally confused what the implications of this stunt are regarding my subconscious. my conscious part of me is horrified and aching from regret. yet i feel like there was a reason i did it even if i dont know what it is yet. i feel totally insane. again.
i feel like edward norton in fight club
or michael cera in youth in revolt
almost as if i am possesed.

I have done that kind of thing in the past, and even to the point of shaving each and every hair from my entire body.

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I'm sorry about your birthday. We're here for you.

Mine was uneventful, boring but not too bad. Sister took me out shopping, we ate.. that's about it. Your 24th will be alot better. : )

/hugs

AspieDacia, If you look anything like the picture you post then you should have a LOT of friends.

A few months ago my (blond) hair was looking shaggy and starting to annoy me so I grabbed some scissors and gave myself a "trim".

Unfortunately I happened to be drunk at the time. OMG! I looked like someone had taken a weed whacker to my head.
But it grew back.

That is because 23 is prime. Wait until you are twenty five. Then you will be on the square.

ruveyn

bblllaaahhhh. what a bad few days i am glad that is over. i had made so much progress lately i wish i knew what was up with my crazy ass brain. i cant tell u all how much it means to me that you even read my post... thank you. i have no friends to talk to about this. my mom. thats about it.honestly i have been too ashamed to tell her or anyone. or leave my house.. ugh. i just feel so weak...
thanks again everyone.
without you there is no one.
-d

Your parents should have arranged a double birth-day. How are your relations with the family in general?

If I'm right, "nobody loves you when you're twenty-three" is from Blink 182's "What's My Age Again"...

First of all, in time your hair will grow back as long as you want, and you will have this birthday as only a distant memory. My 23rd was my worst birthday (and worst age), as my whole life fell apart that year. But it is now only a memory.

What you did with your hair is maybe an act of frustration and anger over your family's inconsiderate behavior on your birthday. That kind of thing hurts bad, especially when they wouldn't include you in the other BBQ. If you have a counselor or a close friend outside of the family, this might be a situation to discuss with them. Others on the WP forum will always listen, but I think you need to have someone closer and in person to help out. Other people don't change, but you can. And when you do, the actions of those other people which are so difficult for you today, will be easy for you if you learn to grow beyond the emotional ties and burdens of some family members and/or friends.

Charles

I think that short hair on a girl is hot. Just have it smoothed out if it's choppy. I'm sorry about your birthday. If I were you, I'd buy myself something special.

First, I want to wish you a Happy Birthday Celebration!

I can understand how bad you felt and how bad you still feel now and why you did something like that. Try not to be so hard on yourself because you can't have your long hair back, at least not right at this moment. You can always grow it back.

It's not your fault that your parents got their priorities mixed up and didn't treat you on your birthday or even invite you to the BBQ.

What you should do is treat yourself to a day of pampering instead of being self-distructive. Go to a hairdresser and get your shorn hair styled, go buy yourself some clothes, shoes and or accessories, have your nails done, get a massage or spend some time in a day spa. Go to dinner and movie or fix your favorite food and rent a movie or two. If you can't afford to do some of this do something similar at home.

Schedule a good day for you to do all of this. If you have some friends who could celebrate this day with you and you want them too, invite them to come along. If you have a tight budget, you can still do alot with a little creativity. You can either buy or order flowers to be sent to yourself at home or work. You can have a theme for your special day and dress a certain way, eat certain foods, play certain music that ties in with the theme. You might be able to get ideas for different things you can do to celebrate your birthday, online. Plan it and enjoy it, you deserve a special celebration, you're only 23 once. Make some happy memories. It's never too late to celebrate.

I'd like to wish you a Happy Birthday. In my ideal world, you wouldn't have had a horrible birthday. In my ideal world, nobody would have horrible birthdays or Christmases. Hugs :O)