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MasterJedi
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30 Jan 2011, 3:32 am

yeah, ask someone who's friendly or whatever if they'd like to be their friend and they don't even get back to you.

whatever.


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30 Jan 2011, 3:48 am

Yeah, one of the few things I've learned that's unacceptable is asking someone outright to be your friend, most people think that's weird, even if it is more efficient. :shrug:



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30 Jan 2011, 3:57 am

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Yeah, one of the few things I've learned that's unacceptable is asking someone outright to be your friend, most people think that's weird, even if it is more efficient.


I find it adorable. Admittedly, though, it is adorable in an autistic sort of way. ^_^


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30 Jan 2011, 4:08 am

To paraphrase my message; "I like how you're friendly on the board and I think we'd get along really well. Want to be facebook friends?"

you know even if you don't have facebook, a reply would still be warranted.

I am very disappointed and if there's one thing I don't like...it is to be...disappointed.


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30 Jan 2011, 11:34 am

Is this why we aren't facebook friends? I was supposed to get back to you? :?

I thought you only wanted to add people to your facebook. I hardly ever contact anyone on my facebook so you weren't the only one. I don't even chat often on there either and have it turned off for right now. And honestly I often don't know what to talk about with someone.

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30 Jan 2011, 11:51 am

not that. Facebook seems to have a bug with me, I'll be friends with someone for a few hours to up to a week and they'll vanish from my friends list. I don't know why. I got in a deep dark funk over it when I first went on Facebook, I thought my relatives were unfriending me. I asked around, it's a glitch with some people. Tried contacting facebook about it. They don't seem to have a very good help system. So no, I didn't unfriend you.

I'm just talking about a recent reaching out to a fellow member who's choosing to ignore me. If it was you, you'd know it.


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30 Jan 2011, 11:57 am

MasterJedi wrote:
not that. Facebook seems to have a bug with me, I'll be friends with someone for a few hours to up to a week and they'll vanish from my friends list. I don't know why. I got in a deep dark funk over it when I first went on Facebook, I thought my relatives were unfriending me. I asked around, it's a glitch with some people. Tried contacting facebook about it. They don't seem to have a very good help system. So no, I didn't unfriend you.

I'm just talking about a recent reaching out to a fellow member who's choosing to ignore me. If it was you, you'd know it.



Oh okay. I remember over a year ago one of my school mates kept adding me as a friend and then defriending me and then re adding me again. I couldn't understand why she kept defriending me and then re adding me and then I tried to add her as a friend and I guess she gave up because she stopped adding me as a friend.

Maybe I should start asking people if I see they had defriended me if they removed me or not but I am always shy to ask.


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30 Jan 2011, 1:37 pm

get used to it. happens to me all the time, :pig:


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30 Jan 2011, 2:17 pm

richardbenson wrote:
get used to it. happens to me all the time, :pig:


Yea and me... facebook is the only social network that actually pisses me off.


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30 Jan 2011, 2:56 pm

Kaybee wrote:
dunbots wrote:
Yeah, one of the few things I've learned that's unacceptable is asking someone outright to be your friend, most people think that's weird, even if it is more efficient.


I find it adorable. Admittedly, though, it is adorable in an autistic sort of way. ^_^

:lol: Yeah, it's cute when a little kid does it, but strange if a teenager or adult does.



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31 Jan 2011, 3:24 pm

this is not the way it's supposed to be. We're social beings. Why the heck can't we get past not wanting to be with others?

I can't wait for a cure.


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31 Jan 2011, 3:30 pm

dunbots wrote:
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Yeah, one of the few things I've learned that's unacceptable is asking someone outright to be your friend, most people think that's weird, even if it is more efficient.


I find it adorable. Admittedly, though, it is adorable in an autistic sort of way. ^_^

:lol: Yeah, it's cute when a little kid does it, but strange if a teenager or adult does.



Then how does an adult do it or a teenager?


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31 Jan 2011, 4:06 pm

In my experiences, you just talk to someone, get to know them, do stuff with them, and when you know them well and like them and do stuff together you consider them your friend.



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31 Jan 2011, 5:36 pm

dunbots wrote:
In my experiences, you just talk to someone, get to know them, do stuff with them, and when you know them well and like them and do stuff together you consider them your friend.
True, but it's hard when most people don't want to talk to you. Unless I'm in a structured, topic-oriented setting, making friends has always been impossible for me unless the other party explicitly said that they were my friend, or unless the friendship was initiated by my parents. I don't get how random strangers in class could just start talking to each other and make friends in class. Such conversations for me would usually be about schoolwork/career and would last 5 minutes maximum.


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31 Jan 2011, 7:35 pm

dunbots wrote:
Kaybee wrote:
dunbots wrote:
Yeah, one of the few things I've learned that's unacceptable is asking someone outright to be your friend, most people think that's weird, even if it is more efficient.


I find it adorable. Admittedly, though, it is adorable in an autistic sort of way. ^_^

:lol: Yeah, it's cute when a little kid does it, but strange if a teenager or adult does.


Why? An adult has to behave ... how? Is it your personal opinion? Where does it come from? Who made the rules for adult behavior? I think they have to be reconsidered. Everybody has different opinions, so who cares about opinions anyway? And by my opinion strangeness is interesting.



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31 Jan 2011, 9:30 pm

That's nothing. What annoyed me about making friends was the fact that as soon as I trusted someone to let them into my house they would steal a bunch of stuff. :wall: