Do you get sad when people die?

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I tend not too. Not even with close friends or family.

I do, because I'm sensitive. I was a real basketcase when I didn't get the support that I needed when Pete Quaife of the original Kinks lineup passed away this month, last year. I was also in pretty rough shape when my best friend's mum passed away just this past March.

No. I have experienced death twice; the first was a childhood friend, and the second was my friend's wife and daughter. I was actually more shocked by the fact I felt absolutely nothing than I was by the deaths themselves.

No. I've attended several funerals in my life, including all of grandparents', and I've never felt any real sadness about it. In those situations I mostly just feel anxious and jittery, because I'm surrounded by all of these people expressing their sadness, crying, wanting to touch and hug and shake hands with me. That's a real overload situation for me. I just want to escape and go back to my quiet, solitary life.

Any time I attend a funeral, I walk past the casket and look at the corpse...and nothing. All I feel is an awareness of what a pointless ritual it is. It's something I only do when family members pressure me to go.

Depends on who it is. If I'm likely to miss them being there, yes. Otherwise, no. Death is an inevitable part of life.

Yes.

I don't feel sad when people die. I only feel sad when animals die. I was traumatized by my gerbil dying of old age, but didn't care that my grandmother died at all.

I also refuse to attend any funerals because I can't handle the grieving, hugging, weeping, corpse-watching people there, and I'm sure they would not appreciate my stoic attitude either. For this I am called "immature".

I feel sad if the person was someone I really cared about. There's not a lot of people I care about though. And I'm not sad in a traditional "cry on someones shoulder and hug all your friends and relatives" way. I'm sad in a "leave me alone in my own little corner" way. I find it very hard to show my emotions in front of others.
If someone out of my little group of people I love dies I really don't feel sad. I feel nothing. I know that it should be sad, that I should be sad but I'm just not. I'll show my respect and concern for the ones suffering but that's all there is.

If they're not close to me or they were very old I don't really care. Everyone will die anyways.

I do get sad, especially if it was someone I knew well. I had a hard time dealing with my friend's death from brain cancer a few months ago. I was the only one in my family who could bear watching the casket being put under the ground, but it was really hard for me. My dad took it hard too because he was really good friends with him. But the worst part about it was the effect it had on his family. His family and our family are very close, so much so that I've always been told to call Jamie's(the person that died) dad Uncle Sandy rather than Sandy or Mr. Chapin. I couldn't imagine how terrible it felt for them, particularly Sandy. And Jamie's sister Becca, one of my childhood friends, took it really hard too. She couldn't control herself for days and days afterwards. I accepted Jamie's death pretty quickly, but I had a hard time watching his family grieve. It made me hurt even more.

Depends on who it is. Only if they're close.

I didn't use to until my grandmother and best friend passed away. To this day it still bothers me.

Not in front of other people.

Depends on my relationship to them.

I don't feel sad for me... I feel sad for others who've lost their loved one's...

The closest person I know who died was my grandpa and I felt nothing except pity for my dad that he was grieving.

Of what I understand, the funeral is for the attenders and not the deceased. Other people, whom are more prone to emotional distress, are given an outlet for release. Then after the funeral it is their duty, to have absolute closure of that grief; and move on with life.

Without a funeral more NT would be prone to dragging on their their melancholy for years to come.
With the funeral they are given full cultural permission, and expectation, to smile the next day.