What does this saying mean?

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I heard this saying a few days ago which said "A lot off people in this world when it comes too themseleves are caught up in the small details without seeing the bigger picture"

what does that mean in more depth? bascially not seeing the bigger picture

People are too fixated upon themselves, their decaying bodies, and the minutiae of life rather than upon the grander scheme of reality and that which is eternally enduring. In thinking themselves wise, they become fools; and in focusing upon every distraction possible, rather than upon what is important, they bring their own destruction upon their heads.

Can you make that a bit more easier for me too understand lol. No offense.

They are thinking about short term gains and not about what's better in the long run. E.g., thinking for themselves rather than their family or future family

That sums it up quite nicely.

Corollary: They are so heavily fixated on their flaws that they have blinded themselves to their own potential for improvement and growth.

OKay can you answer me this.......... say if someone says you look 'like' somebody and you can't see the resemblence in yourself and you focus on the small details without seeing the bigger picture. what does that mean?

To me it means that people are always fussing about their own personal nonsense baloney as if the whole world revolves around them. The reality is that an individual isn't all that important when compared to the whole of humanity. For example, the concept of vanity:
A person can have say 3 or more platic surgeries but doesn't realize that the money could have fed a whole village in an impoverished nation. Plastic surgery doesn't guarantee love.
Another example, somebody has to have five pairs of shoes to be the belle of the ball when she only needs two. She could donate the other three. One more example: Screaming about some dog pooping on your lawn when many people have lost everything due to a natural disaster. I'm sure other posters can contribute much, much more to your question about what that saying meant. Before my kids were born, I used to fret over stupid things. My kids took me OUT of myself. I had learned about sacrifice through them. They became the center of my world instead of my petty complaints.

It means that you are too concerned with what other people think.

That says a LOT!! ! My young son (12) who is an aspie does that when he gets upset over homework. He's in honors math and will blame the fact that he has no one to talk to at lunch
as the reason why he didn't follow a basic rule of math. I tell him time and time again that he's going to school to get an education so he can have a more comfortable and potentially successful life. Lunch is a half of an hour and the school day of learning is way longer.
I knew a girl who put her whole life on hold because she didn't feel worthy to educate herself until she lost 75 pounds. She could've done both at the same time!! She NEVER lost the weight and suffers daily doing a mundane, low-paying job. The job made her get even bigger which is VERY bad for her health. She didn't look at the big picture and focused on stupid s**t.
Ya know, some jerk made a comment about how I dressed at a nightclub (jeans and a dancetop) - I guess to ruin my night. I told him I was there to have a good time with my friends not to compete with the other girls for GOD KNOWS WHAT or for him. It's like saying I'm too fat to go to a gym. That's what gyms are for. Other over-critical people CAN INDEED make you focus on what's not important because they are shallow. Shallow families can really F up kid or people who fret over silly things might just have some form of OCD where they can't focus.

Sometimes it's hard to figure out what a phrase means when that person doesn't really use the right words to describe what they mean. What this person means is that you should just laugh and say," Ha, ha so you think I look like "him". You don't have to "ANALYSE" the comment. Don't dwell on it, just move on in the conversation. Don't ask, "Well, HOW do I look like him." These little things are not important. Yes, perhaps you do focus on small details but when he said that you don't see the bigger picture, things got confusing, right? - like what the hell is he talking about? With asperger's, people tend to focus on "PARTS" instead of being homogeneous. Perhaps you have a very analytical thought process.