Just being good at something has become the new ‘mediocre’

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I fit in less and less in a world where getting less than A- on a test is increasingly seen by people as a ‘failure’. That’s not just 125+ IQ types expecting such scores. Admittedly it was a long time ago, but the best I got was a few B+. Just being good at something has become the new ‘mediocre’

The highest grade I got was a C. The rest were below. How do people manage to get As and Bs?

My highest grade is also what seem to be equivalent to C and it was mostly around P.E.

The rest just fluctuates between D and C, barely away from F. Never go past B...

Oh wait, not when since I started at 3rd year high school where people starts leaving me alone, when I get to at least comprehend some of the language itself and got an average of B to C -- I wasn't serious still.

Also did once when I was in college and took some subjects into a real liking; which was an equivalent to A.



Nah.
I just never took academics or grades or even school as a whole too seriously.

In my elementary years...
Not entirely my fault then, because my language comprehension was poor and nobody seem to notice it.
Anyone concerned are all more worried about how I socialize than how I learn.

In former years in high school I've been dealing with pubescent mess, too focused on coping.

None of those nonsense since latter years of high school and on my way to college.
Except for one; I'm usually asleep in class half the time.



Also hell no.
The online classes of these recent years? And the kid's grades?

How does one is certain it's not their parents or guardians answering the handouts???
Because it's been the case from where I came from -- it had a lot of jokes about it too.

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I was a 3rd rate student at school. Even now I'm one of life's f*** ups

You're not a f*** up, firemonkey. You're a brilliant person coping very well despite childhood trauma, the loss of your wife, and having ASD / mental illness. You're also a very kind person.

I know you feel badly about your adaptive functioning skill. Is there some way you can work on one particular problem area, and ask for our support? What would you like to improve on?

How to do better at sequencing activities would be one. Strategies to improve executive functioning.

I make lists all the time, chores, bills to pay,shopping etc.,,It really helps me.Also writing stuff down on the calendar.
I was a complete failure in grade school, I was told by a teacher that I was too stupid to learn to read.Then around fifth grade it clicked and I was reading at an eighth grade level and now I read faster than anyone I know. I made A’s during high school in the subject’s I enjoyed.I never even studied for those.
But Algebra was my downfall.The only subject I failed.I felt like a complete idiot in that class.I don’t have a math brain.I wish I did.Math is an absolute truth.2 + 2 always equal 4.Math can’t lie.

I had severe attention/organisation difficulties that was never addressed (I was never diagnosed with ADHD). I found it so hard to pay attention, focus and remember things at school, particularly high school. I only got the homework done because I was scared of getting into trouble for not doing it (I had/have an anxiety disorder). I found it really hard to study for my final exams when I was 15-16. I just couldn't settle down and focus. I didn't even know where to start.
At the time I thought I was just lazy, but looking back it was because I struggled to organise my thoughts into tasks and prepare myself properly. Also I had obsessions with men that took over my mind, but I still would have had attention difficulties without the obsessions.

For me it's definitely prioritising. The correct order of steps to do a task.

Thanks Isabella for the suggestions. Joe90 , I can fully empathise with your organisational difficulties at school. My school reports, as a teenager, often mentioned my being messy and disorganised. Like you there was no help for it.

I hear there is "grade inflation," so the same quality of work gets higher grades nowadays. Used to be a C was supposed to be "average" work, but I don't think that is true anymore. It shouldn't be a failure to be average.