Not sure what to do with my life. Need advice

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I got into one of my periodic slumps where I feel mildly depressed being an aspie and having little to no friends or romantic life. I'm hoping to get some feedback from this community, because I know that you guys can relate to what I'm going through more so than what my family or coworkers can.

I'm 24 years old, got an average college-level job and am currently dwelling in my apartment shared with a roommate whom I rarely talk to. I spend most of my time gaming and watching TV shows, including anime. I plan on getting a masters degree in the near future.

I feel completely content not having any friends. I do feel more comfort being alone rather than being with anyone else, unless they're family. For whatever reason, my parents and my siblings are the only ones I'm comfortable around. However, I do feel down knowing that I do not have a relationship with anyone and knowing that it will be hard to get a relationship with someone without having friends, not to mention all the awkward behavior I'll inevitably display to my romantic interest.

Perhaps I need to learn to "get in the game" and start preparing myself to get into the dating scene. On the other hand, doing all this will take an exorbitant amount of time, energy, and money. Also, although it will bring me its fair share of pleasures, it will also bring me its share of vices with concern, worry, stress, etc. Additionally, preserving the relationship as couples will be more difficult due to my nature.

Also, this whole interest in getting into the dating scene stems from having an interest in romance more so than having a companion. Understandably, most would consider this to be somewhat shallow, but nonetheless romance is one of the integral parts required in a pair. Companionship is a plus, but that itself doesn't really motivate me to pursue a relationship.

That being said, maybe it'd be better if I simply remained single for life. I don't think I'd be ever completely content with my life, but I'd certainly prefer to maintain status quo until death rather than to risk bringing in hardship (financial and emotional). Not to mention all the pressures and stress you get trying to impress your girlfriend and her friends. Maybe all of this simply isn't worth it.

But please, do give me some insight so that I can make a better judgement on which route to take.