Why blame the victim?

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Why do people blame the victim in certain situations. I remember reading one story of a girl (14) named Dana, who lived with her stoic, strong mother (she took her daughter away from her abusive father when she was young). Dana played baseball, so that day she went to practice early to help the baseball coach set up. He told her he needed her to work on her swing, so she did, and he attempted to fondle her. She ran off and told her mother, but her mother blamed her because she went to practice early, "shakin' ass all around". Dana, at the end, lost faith in innocence and childhood (this was symbolized by the breaking of unicorn toys her mother's nice, young boyfriend gave her).

Is the man not at fault?

I don't really know but I think it's pretty stupid.....I mean it just adds insult to injury really...and seems like a cheap way of trying to justify abuse/harrasment and such. Or maybe an easy way of ignoring the issue in question.

I think the man is at fault. I also think the mother is at fault in her reaction, as she seems to believe her daughter should have expected what happened. People sometimes apportion blame to a victim, when they believe the victim is responsible enough to have know better. Even when the victim is 'responsible', the greater blame should always be placed on the perpetrator, in my opinion.

Some people do ask for the treatment they get. There's a boy who lives 2 doors away from us that plays with my brother who's a little s**t (the neighbour not my bro). He's a control freak, bossy, rude, when he knocks on and Brad doesn't want to play he has to quiz whoever's turning him away to make sure our reasons are true and goes off in a huff when he goes back, he stands by the front door for ages at a time and knocks every 10 seconds (he used to just waltz right in our house until my mum told him off.) He has an infuriating voice and is a greedy bastard and always get my siblings to cook him stuff and always always comes round at meal times, the only reason being so he can get food.
Yesterday while preparing tea he was sent home and Brad took him to his door, he was pretending to knock on his house and kept coming back in saying they won't answer, he left eventually and that's when my bro said he was pretending to knock on, sneaky twat.

At school he gets picked on a lot, but it is his own fault for being such a horrible kid, he treats everyone like s**t and it's a given he pisses off everyone at his school and they're just retaliating.

I hate him and I don't hide it.

Though of course the mum in your example was a bit of a b***h, whether her daughter was jiggling her arse or not.

Because the world is a backwards sick twisted place.

The mother seems to be lacking in empathy and sympathy towards her daughter. Imagine how the daughter must have felt after her mother said that to her.

Oh, he knows what he's doing, he's 9 by the way and fully capable of knowingly being horrible to his "friends". And he's nowhere near autistic.
You haven't even met him, he does need someone to really snap at him for him to realise how bad his behaviour is. He needs a serious wake-up call and will get one from someone before long.

@rabbitears It seems to be everyone's explanation for everything on here.

By the way, yeah, sometimes the victim can bring it on themselves, sometimes not. Things like this have just got to be taken on a case by case basis and people shouldn't get involved if they don't know the full story.

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