Do you like it when people ask you for advice?

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If not, why?

People always ask me about computers, I used to enjoy it but now it is just annoying.

No, they should bother someone else. They usually do it when I'm way too busy.

It depends on the subject for me, but most times they ask me for stuff I've no idea how to answer.

I like it when they genuinely want to know my opinion, not when they come just looking for a confirmation of whatever they already have in mind.

I like it if my advice helps them

No, because my perspective on the world is so different than everyone else's that my advice never helps them. Part of it may have to do with the fact that I have lived a very sheltered life.

Same here about perspective being different & having lived a sheltered life. I can be helpful at times thou because I analyze logically so I give a more practical perspective that isn't clouded by emotions.

People come to me to talk about personal issues about their life. I always tell them that I will definitely listen, but I cannot really give advice. They end up asking me for advice anyway, about things I don't have a clue about! One person asked advice about a social situation, and several people asked me for advice about relationships. I am either clueless and/or not very experienced in those areas. I have no idea how to help besides giving them someone to rant to.

So, to answer your question. Yes and no. I like how they can trust me with these things, but no because... I don't really know how to help solve their problems. When that one person was asking me for advice about a social situation, I kept telling her, "I have no idea at all! You know I'm not the best person to come to for that!", but she kept saying, "I know! But just answer! Yes or no!!"

Last edited by Sempiternal on 02 Jul 2012, 5:47 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Ah, I see. Thinking logically is probably why you have been able to give good advice. My judgments are always clouded by my own emotions so I am ill equipped to give helpful advice.

That's the same for me as well. I've also lived a sheltered life and I'm sure that my perspective is too different for most people to accept.

Depends on what they're asking for advice on. If it's something where I feel confident, then I'm all like But if it's something where I'm a bit...less confident...then I'm probably going to be more like

I think most people's judgment is clouded by their own emotions. Mine is too when I'm currently in a situation but my analytical ability works a lot better when I'm nor involved so I can give someone advice even thou I would have problems thinking of that advice for myself. Trying to help someone can get to me after a while thou if I get frustrated by trying too hard & I don't realize it's getting to me so it builds up & then frustration slips out. I may try making a post about this in L&D or Haven Or Members but it won't be today.

Sometimes I do other times I feel rather annoyed.

lol. (i'm laughing at myself.) never really thought about it but now that i have i'm thinking that i'm pretty weird.

on the one hand i like helping people but on the other hand i don't like being asked for advice. i give a lot out. my naturally reserved nature makes people my age target me as a good source. most people i know are also aware that i can provide information on just about any subject. even if i know nothing about it, i can find the answer faster than they can. (one of my special interests is harvesting information. it's a lifelong obsession.)

sometimes it's just irritating to be asked for advice on banal topics. it's hard because having had a pretty tough life, when someone asks me how to deal with a problem so "small" that i wouldn't even spend time thinking about it, i'm like "wtf, you call that a problem." (in my head, i'm not awful enough to say that to someone.)

i also worry about misinformation or rather misadvice? i'm comfortable with factual stuff, less so when i know they might get hurt emotionally while taking my advice.

Yep. That's why I'm going to be a social worker.