This is getting really annoying!

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i am medium height and skinny. what is fustrating is that when i go out too bars/clubs big men a lot of the time target me and in fact last time i went out and i was pushed around in the toilets by a bunch of other guys.

4 years ago when going out on the town i never got picked on but i have noticed a pattern in this year of me getting targeted by random guys when i go out too bars/clubs. 4 years ago i was heavier (fat) and looked older but since then i have gotten in better shape and i am really slim now which makes me look younger and more boyish. still though the price too pay for me being slimmer is that i seem too bullied more out in public. this trend of me being targeted when out on the town has only started happening this year.

i just want too live a peaceful life without conflict but i find when i go out i am always being picked on by bigger men and it can get fustrating after a while. people say strength does not matter in life but it REALLY does in the real world. all these big guys who bully me are turning me from a placid person into a bad person so its not all my fault. are most people really that nasty? I just want too go out on the town and enjoy myself but if people would stop being such as*holes maybe i would be more in harmony with others

any advice? this really does take me back too my school days when i was bullied as well My muscle/strength can go oup and down like a yoyo since people on the spectrum have issues with muscle tone etc...


can looking young for my age have something too do with it as well? I am 22 but my face still looks very similar too how it did when i was 12 or 13

Find bodyguard friends.

I think everybody comes in contact with these people who bully those who are smaller. But if you are really convinced that you are the only one being plagued by this in your entire area, maybe consider moving out to a more peaceful place?

Also, nightclubs and bars are THE places where most narcissists love to come to raise their status, consider that + it's THE place for dealing harddrugs.

It is very unfortunate that you find yourself in this possition. I am really not convinced that the world is full of hate, I think you must be just in the wrong place at the wrong time. Sorry

Bars and clubs can attract hot shots like those jerks, who get can sometimes get drunk and disorderly. Particularly late at night. Is the bullying only happening at those types of places? I'm sorry they pushed you around - I can't stand people like that!

I've not seen behaviour like this myself, so no, not everyone's like that. Why people would do that, I have no idea :/. Is it happening in one specific place? Can you try others?

ive never seen this happen but i have been quite big most my life (fat) i started to do weights and cardio/diet and totally changed in 4 months time i went from 15 stone to 12 and gained alot of muscle i then noticed when i went out i got alot of compliments and respect of people i knew and people seemed to treat me better in general. so i say join a gym and get growing i found i was more happy and confident

Gain some muscle and learn and train efficient self defense . Also it might be a good idea to carry a legal weapon of some sort.

This is why i don't go out to places like that, way too dangerous and its not fun to get into a fight anyway, unless you're looking for a fight ofcourse, and i train a lot myself to be ready for situations like that, only my issue is that i get way too much adreneline into my system which makes me far too strong and far too uncontrolled :/

Quit hanging around drunk people.