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I wanted to be a ballet dancer when I was a very young child. I loved how ballet dancers would move with such effortless grace, such elegant flow, and just come as close as any human ever came to sprouting wings and flying.

My father would have none of that. He said ballet is only for women and sissies. I have long since forgiven him but it still is a huge regret of mine that I was never able to take up ballet. I then wanted to be an opera singer but my mother told me it was too expensive.

Then I wanted to be a football player. I wanted to throw the ball like Brett Favre and scramble like Steve Young. I was told it was impossible because I was too skinny and too weak in addition to my mother making me cry by saying Favre and Young were going to burn in hell – the former for drug addiction and the latter for being a Mormon.

I wanted to be a violinist. No. I wanted to be a guitar player. No. I wanted to be a drummer. No – too loud I was told. I wanted to be a pianist. I began to learn quickly but when lessons began to interfere with my mother’s aspirations for our family, she abruptly ended that.

I wanted to be a chef. Too hectic and fast paced for my autism. I wanted to be an actor. No – too difficult to become successful.

I wanted to join the military and serve my country. And I was told how the stress would cause me to pick up that gun and go insane.

I wanted to be a doctor. But you had to have money to make it through all the schooling.

I wanted to serve God. I was too much of a sinner for that.

I wanted to fall in love. I was told I was too emotionally unstable to ever warrant a woman’s affection. I wanted to be a mentor to someone, anyone. I was told I had no perspective that could change a person’s life.

I wanted to be myself. I was told that was unacceptable because I was a poor excuse of a human being.

I wanted to be somebody. And all I was told by everyone was why I couldn’t be that somebody.

What did you want to be?

I want to be a writer for a living. If you know that you want to do something or be something you should do everything you can to make it happen and never give up. As far as feasibility goes maybe you should frankly assess your skills, abilities, interests and finances to find out what you would be best at and what you really want to do and then make a plan as to how to do that. Sorry if I sound preachy but you sounded like you wanted some encouragement. I know someone who is low functioning who is engaged to be married on Valentines Day next year so it can happen. I hope I've not overstepped my boundaries or made you feel uncomfortable.

How old are you? Maybe you could still do ballet. My husband didn't take up ballet til he was in college. He did it to (literally and figuratively) pick up cute girls, but wound up falling in love with the art form. He got good enough to do it professionally but a family emergency kept him from being able to move to a better city for performing arts.

Impossible. We all are sinners. Other people (read: "sinners") may tell you that you're too much of a sinner to serve God, but remember the words of Jesus to the prostitute: Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. No human being has any right to tell another they are not "good enough" to serve God.

They actually told you this stuff?

wow... and I thought my parents where emotionally abusive.

When I was a young man I wanted to learn how to do custom paint jobs on cars.
When computers started appearing all over the place (1994) I wanted to learn programming.

I'm GOING to be an engineer, despite my mother telling me that I "should avoid math based careers" because of a bad grade one marking period of algebra II class.

As for that, I'm not religious, but my understanding of Christianity is that everyone is a sinner, even priests and saints. This should not prevent you from joining the clergy or doing charity work with religious organization.

Lesson #0 of life:

Don't always listen to people

At first I wanted to be in many of those boyhood dream jobs, you know, police officer, firefighter or a pilot. Then my eyesight degraded fast and made an end to those careers

After that, my dream jobs followed my interests, first astronomy, then medicine, then biology, then computers

I never quite lost interest in astronomy... stars, planets and galaxies are all exciting and give mankind new opportunities once we reach them
Medicine... well, when I found out that it took ages to become a doctor and even longer to become a vet, the interest faded
Biology was only an interest for a very short time until I fell over competitive computer gaming (at the time, Counter Strike)
Computers and IT are still my main interests, unchanged for almost 15 years... but I also managed to fulfill that dream of getting an education centered around game development

And here I am... looking for a job

In any case, you get nowhere without at least trying, regardless of what others say.

Romans 3:23: For ALL have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.

It's sad how many people who claim to be such good Christians miss the most important word in that verse.

Anyway, it may be true that some of the things in the first half of that post were impossible for you to achieve - although it quite possibly would have been nice to at least try some of them.

However, when it comes to the last few you listed, there is only one person that can stop you from having a chance at being all of those things: you. Don't listen to the negative people in life that try to look down on you - their words are meaningless and self-serving, meant only to tear you down so they can try to feel good about themselves in comparison.

I'm going to do my own thing. I am doing my own thing.

I never really knew what I wanted to be when I was little & I never talked about what I wanted to do with my parents or anyone else. I mostly just wanted to not be in school & left alone. My parents do & did have some ideas on what they think I could of done or should of done or do but they don't really understand me so I don't let it have much influence over me

this.

other than that i really hope that you will take some of the advice above,

especially the part about not always listening to people, even if family.

Taverson, you're never too young or too old to be what you want to be. Don't let the harsh remarks others give to you hold you back. Ever since I was young I've always wanted to be a chef. Nobody said I could do it because I crack under pressure too easily, I'm very emotional, and I am too clumsy. Now after years of being told I cannot do something I'm headed off to one of the top culinary schools in America. Don't worry about what others think, It's never too late to start working towards your dreams.

I want to strip off this raggedy coat of neuro typical I've carefully stiched together over the years and be, me

Dear BrokenBill,
I cannot decide if I should put your comment on a sign on my wall, or on a t-shirt.....
Well said, anyhow!

Sylkat

I hid myself and tried to be somebody else my entire life. Just now I am starting to be myself and not listen to people. I really don't care what others have to say anymore.