CAT's behavior??

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I come home from work the other day to sit at my table (with the cat on the table of course),
drinking tea and crying to the cat about what an AWFUL day I had. Ya know what she did....she turned her back to me. I felt like a passenger on a bus with a cat's back turned to me! What the heck?? I NEVER saw a cat do this. When I had a dog and complained about a bad day, the dog took pity on me and licked my face or would howl at each bad situation I would tell it about. What is WITH this cat? Is this the way they are? I feel like this cat is using me for a meal ticket. I don't think it gives a flying flip about me.

Cats are not well known for being sympathetic.
The Missus and I have been going through some very sad times lately, and our little lovebird has understood. Sitting on our shoulders, he nuzzles close and leans his head against our necks to let us know he understands we're sad.

Now the awful truth comes out. Yes, the cat is using you for a meal ticket. But if the cat's not shy, he won't mind you using him for a comfort object. It's a fair exchange. Next time he turns his back, give him a scratch between the ears.

Cats are very intelligent, they're almost like people. And like people, they have different personalities. Perhaps your cat is just an unsympathetic jerk. It happens. I have three cats, all females. They adore me. I cannot sit down or kneel down without all three swarming me.

Amen brother.

They're f*****g bullies, that's what they are.

I don't know about that, but a mate of mine who has six cats says they all have different personalities. What's amusing is that all six have different reactions to catnip.

Yes, cats can be great at ignoring everything and sometimes they act indifferent. My cats do that too. But then again, when I'm feeling very bad or sit there crying, they come to comfort me. One of them even wipes my tears with her forehead.

Speaking of kitties: how many of you have problems getting yours to the vet?
Does your furry friend somehow 'know' they're going to get a shot?

There was a saying I heard years ago that sums it up.

Dogs have owners, cats have staff.

You my friend are staff.


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Saw this, liked and thought to share.

It is a very distinct tribute to be chosen as the friend and confidant of a cat. ~ H. P. Lovecraft

I'm not too surprised that your cat turned her back on you. Mine does this all the time when she doesn't consider listening to me worth her time. She's the queen of the house, and me and my brother and my parents are really just her household staff. She knows this pretty well. I mean, I've even been banished from my own room at times. She'll just decide she wants the room to herself and will not let me in until she decides I can come in. But I think this shows just how awesome and intelligent cats are.

All the time. The dogs are absolutely thrilled when we go to the vet. They love going out. The cat just meows and meows very loudly in her carrier. It annoys my mom very much. She says she doesn't know what's worse, that the car smells like dogs, or that the cat's annoying.

I was recently reading a very serious book about science when I ran across the question of how do kitties know they are going to the vet? Many cat owners report that their cat will hide or actively resist being picked up even though they have not given them any 'clues' such as getting the carrier out. Most cat "staff" say this is typical behavior, but doggies will get all the way to the vet's examining room before they realize what's up.

I can't get my cat into the carrier for the life of me.

I remember when we had to move a few months ago, the two nearly full grown kittens had never been outside and they were terrified inside the carrier riding in the back of the vehicle. I was sitting with them making sure the carrier didn't slide around and whispering calming things to them. One was trying to escape through the tiny spaces between the bars, the other was sitting there hyperventilating. O.o

Poor kitties ...

Here's the difference, from your perspective "crying to the cat" - from the cats point of view you were "crying at it".

If they feel like you are taking it out on them, or making it out to be their fault, damn straight they will ignore you or walk away.
You probably didn't intend to do that but cats are sensitive and pick up at things like this, most likely from your tone and body language.

Keep the blame and vent factor out of your voice and body language and simply express sadness without putting pressure or implying fault and most respond by trying to comfort.
But if they think they are being blamed or being demanded at... you will totally be on your own.

I have finally found you, the Cat Whisperer.