What was my mum trying too say?

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I was really sad once about my grandmas death (she died of cancer when I was 7). When I was a teenager I was crying about her death in front of my mum. My mother then said too me "now James she liked you a lot but at the end of the day she only cared about herself" and she then went on too say "she was a very selfish women in that respect"


My mum has a point because my grandma refused some treatment for her cancer because it would make her go bald.



More too the point what message do you think my mum was trying too say too me about my late grandmother?

Beats me.

I suspect either she missunderstood you, or you miss understood her. Or both.

Dont have children myself.
And my dad was a very unpleasant and verbally abusive in the last days of his slow death by emphasema.

But if I had had a child who cried about his/her granddad passing away I wouldve bit my tongue about my own bitter feelings about my dad in his last days. Though I might have said something to my hypothetical child like "he was suffering alot in the end and its better for him that his suffering ended"-something like that.