Are you sensitive to criticism and insults?

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AJ89
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22 Dec 2012, 7:01 pm

I admit that I am and I usually respond angrily to anyone who insults or criticizes me.



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22 Dec 2012, 7:30 pm

I'm extremely sensitive to that sort of thing but also very non-confrontational and not emotionally expressive so most people probably think it doesn't bother me.



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22 Dec 2012, 7:32 pm

I kill you, bastard!

What was it you said again?



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22 Dec 2012, 7:33 pm

I'm with Corastorm.

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22 Dec 2012, 11:09 pm

I am. I'm very sensitive to those things. So much to the point that it took me a little over two years to be able to spend more than just two days with my parents. I've got to remember that Hell Week was in the October of 2009 and this is the Christmas of 2012. I just hope that the next few days don't turn out to be like Hell Week.


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22 Dec 2012, 11:14 pm

Yeah, I can be pretty defensive about myself about this.


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22 Dec 2012, 11:41 pm

Yes. I feel the need to over explain things or I get argumentative or I lash out verbally over it. It's gotten me into aLOT of trouble as a kid because I thought people were insulting me when they were really just joking.


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22 Dec 2012, 11:43 pm

AJ89 wrote:
Are you sensitive to criticism and insults?

Are you calling me 'fat'?

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22 Dec 2012, 11:53 pm

I often don't realize until later that people have been nasty. It's one of the things that if I could change, I totally would. I'm generally fine with critiques because they have a functional use but when I actually catch on that people are being unnecessarily critical I generally just shut down and don't respond. I learned early not to show weakness, and pain or upset is weakness. So my response to almost everything is uniformly blank-pleasant-face.



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23 Dec 2012, 2:39 pm

Yes. I'm worse if someone insults my best friend rather than me though. All hell breaks loose if that happens. I think with my fists first when people say anything about her or me.


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23 Dec 2012, 4:22 pm

Used to be before but nowadays i can take it.



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23 Dec 2012, 4:56 pm

Yes :cry:



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23 Dec 2012, 7:39 pm

yep, absolutely BIG time and then I sulk and don't talk for days or even months, and even though it's absolutely horrible, I will b***h and whinge behind their back instead of facing them and dealing with it :( I am getting better though. Family is the hardest though, way too much...with them I just feel bitter and avoid, avoid, avoid :( (so much for being 45 yrs old! hehehe)



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23 Dec 2012, 10:34 pm

yes I can be sentive at times, over the years whenever any family members said things I would get upset and start getting angry then I wouldn't talk to them for ages.
Since I've been on Zoloft I've been able to take things a bit better.



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23 Dec 2012, 11:37 pm

Yes. I absolutely hate it, and it bothers me for a long time afterwards.



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24 Dec 2012, 12:31 am

Depends on the criticism or insult; I treat willful attempts to cause me emotional harm the same as I would willful attempts to cause me physical harm, while simple unflattering observations and such I tend to merely dispute if I think they're off base. In the former case I'm not so much responding to what was said as I am the fact that someone is trying to cause me pain, and I don't take that kind of thing lightly.


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