Don't know how to help aspies in distress

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I don't know that many people with asperger's in daily life but when I am on this forum I read a lot of posts that worry me. Some people are really and truly suffering. I have been there myself and I still am from time to time so I know exactly where they are coming from I would very much like to give a proper and useful response to people who need advice or a little help but I have no idea how to go about it. Sometimes I manage to post something that can be considered as slightly useful but that doesn't happen often to be honest. Instead I do what I always do which is BS my way through life and that includes this forum, the easy way out so to speak. I do feel guilty about that sometimes because this forum should be a place where people can share their problems with others. That is why I would like to offer my apologies to all of you. Just ignore me, that's probably for the best.

I think the fact that you even notice that someone is in distress can be a big help. Just show them that you care, without seeming condescending ( of which I have been accused when it is not my intent). Word placement is important. Be kind.

How to help depends on the nature of the problem and a rough guess on your part as to the nature of the user. For example, I will respond differently to a sixteen year old girl with boyfriend problems and a forty year old who has some issues socializing. There isn't a 'one size fits all' solution here and it needs some experience.

it is all about "AT-ONE-ment."