My cat has months to live, tops.

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She has bee wheezing for a while. At first they thought it was asthma. Then they found that she has a heart murmur. Now she appears to have a tumor in her ribs that is causing fluid to collect in her lungs, hence the wheezing, and pressing near her heart, hence the heart murmur.

She has months to live, tops. If she stops eating, my parents will put her down. I have no say in this. We've only thought something was wrong for a few weeks, now it may just be weeks until I lose her.

My grandmother died before, but I didn't really know her... My cat has been my best friend before, sweet and loyal, and now so quickly, she is leaving. This is my first real experience with death...

I'm so focused on this. I can't focus on anything else. I can't do school, I've been crying for an hour right now... How do I get anything done like this?

I am sorry, for you and for your kitty!

Yeah...me too!

I hope there is a Heaven, so your cat could go to it....and watch you do well in school. That's what I think your cat would want--especially if he/she is up in Heaven.

I had a cat who was my best friend, too. So I know, at least somewhat, how you feel.

I'm sorry. It's going to be hard, no doubt about that. Give yourself permission to feel sad. Take it easy and relax. Hopefully, over time, you will be able to smile at your good memories with your cat.

I very much know how you feel..though i wish no one did.

One thing that might help (later) is something someone else told me when one of my friends was about to go.

Basically, i spend a lot of time in my head in general, and even more when upset. As such, the time i was spending with them, i kept thinking about losing them and how much i was going to miss them and the times we'd spent in the past. But what the person told me was to really try to spend every minute i could, there, in the present, with him. How he looked, how soft he was, how he smelled, the little sounds and faces he made..absorbing every inch and every moment .. Being present in the present, not in my head. And, i did that, and when i had to let him go because his pain was great and though i wanted him to stay forever, it was best for him, i again started to drift into my head and how wrenchingly crushed i was...and remembered..and breathed.. And tried to let everything go but what was there that moment...with him. And how very deeply i loved him.

After he was gone, i had loads of time to cry and miss him and think and be stuck in the past and future..and i did. But i'll always be really grateful the guy told me that because it gave me moments that will be with me forever that i otherwise would've missed.

I'm really sorry about your kitty

I'm sorry about your cat. I lost my first cat, her name was Jenny, she was 23 years old. She was my best friend, roommate, my child. When she died, she died days before her 24th birthday, I was so depressed. Sorry again for your pain.

Sweet Pea hugs

I'm sorry to hear that. I think the best you can do is try to enjoy as much time as you can with her while she is still alive. Make sure you have a photo of her or something as a memory. My cat died when I was 11, and I was never that close with him. And that made me even sadder when he died. I still regret not being close with him.

Hugs for you and for her.

Oh no I am so sorry! Many hugs for you and kitty!! xx

I think the best you can do right now is to do your best with school/work (sorry dunno if you are working or studying or maybe both). Anyway, just do the best you can and also spend time with kitty as much as you can. You will eventually be OK after a while (not the same as before, but we learn to live again, without our friend around). Hopefully you can eventually be back to a more normal state after a while. I don't know how long that will take, but just give yourself time to heal from the shock and also from the loss eventually (whenever that happens) and you will be alright. I have lost pets as well and I know how hard that is. A loss is a loss no matter if the loved one was a furry or a human. Either way, it hurts, and it takes time to go through the grief process, but just let it take time and let yourself do whatever you need to do to be OK.

Hugs! xx