The "acknowledging a cool NT action" thread

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We all know that us Aspies have suffered many a sling and arrow from NTs who don't get us or wish us harm or whatnot. But I think there should be a positive thread as well. Because every now and again, I run into a person who confronts my Aspie-ness and really comes through to help out.

An example from just a few minutes ago:

A big thank you to Mark, an overnight credit card dude at my bank. Even though the customer service line was closed and I was panicked and on the verge of a meltdown, he took the time to answer questions outside his job requirement(am so glad he used to work in the relevant department I needed) and not only reassured me that things would be fine, he also tolerated my over-clarifying and repetitive questions, and didn't pause for a second when I apologized and explained that I was on the spectrum. He even ran through multiple hypotheticals with me. A true stand-up gent.

Thank you sir for preventing a potentially huge meltdown from me.


Edit: d'oh! Meant for this to go to the Random forum.

I had a moment going into an SSA office once. I had no idea what to do or where to go. I also usually freeze going into new places while I process them. The security guard noticed I was frozen and gave me explicit instructions on where to go and what to do. I was actually really happy with this.

When coming home from therapy once I couldn't tell if we were on the right road or going in the right direction, and my driver was willing to show me empirical data (she programmed the GPS for me a second time so I could see) to prove we were going in the right direction without getting angry at me for assuming I was saying didn't know where she was going. I didn't assume that, the weather was just weird and I couldn't recognize the road.

There are a thousand little kindnesses like this, too. They add up. It's why I don't hate people.

I'm an "NT" and I've gone out of my way to help autistics understand things they might not usually get. I tend to spend a couple of hours a day in our local chatroom, and I'm usually the first to give a clueless "So I was just diagnosed with AS, what do?" fellow a quick run through of what to do next, I always answer unanswered questions as I see them about common mental disorders and ASD since for reasons that would complicate my post I have read several books on the subject.

But I am not always kind, I was even the opposite a few times. Every group of people can become tiresome and annoying sometimes, however it's generally not an issue.

I'm trying to word this to make it clear that I am usually very helpful and I am probably the only NT here that has stayed simply to answer questions about a subject I'm knowledgeable about - the rest seem to be here to ask questions about their autistic reletive, I suppose i have my own personal stakes but what ho, that's for another day.
Sorry, I'm being deliberately vague and obtuse, but we do that.

I have a really special friend who has been very supportive of me, knew what I was talking about when I confided about my AS to him, has never belittled my beliefs or concerns and is always understanding of my confusion or mistakes. In the past two years he has helped me find the courage to actually MAKE THE CALL, and go to the appointments with a neuropsychologist.
So thanks, to all the atypical neurotypicals like him, and Phonic.

Not really anything to do with AS, but contrary to stereotype, the woman at the DMV was actually friendly and helpful earlier today.

I would like to thank Maureen for accepting me as a member of Stepping Stones. She was the boss of the clubhouse and she's very NT.

I'd like to thank my mom for everything she's ever done for me. I'd be lost without her.

I think my mom either knowingly or unknowingly is trying to get me pissed off at her so I will do better in school

My mother and other family members who have made sacrifices for their aspie family member.

Mostly my mother. She did not plan on having an aspie child and I was a horribly behaved little child unintentionally.
I know that my meltdowns have been hell for her. She started stress eating because of me and is overweight. I hate myself for this.

I know some aspies have problems with bullying at school but i wasn't one of them. It's not that i wasn't an outsider, or people didn't take an attitude with me, it's just that i gave it back as good as it was given and i was known for it so i just wasn't an easy target. That said, there was this one girl that stuck up for me at school one time and even though it didn't bother me that someone had said something ( i had already passed them at the time or i might have said something and either way i was so arrogant that i didn't give a crap), the fact that this girl, who was pretty much "THAT" girl at school, the prettiest and most popular girl at the school for most nts, actually stuck up for me when she didn't have to, was really nice. If i ever speak meet her some day i think ill tell her how much i appreciate her saying something, it was really nice of her.

thank you anna my social worker for giving me and my mum the help we have been waiting for since people noticed something was wrong with me at three years old.
and thankyou claire my support worker for taking me to mother and toddlers once and week and getting me out the house.