[Just venting] New Year's: Go out or not...

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Yeah, yeah. Of course. The answer is so obvious... "Go out! You're young only once! If for nothing else, do it for having had the experience!". Blah...
Just listen to my little story, okay?

VENTING ALERT

Yesterday my buddy from university messaged me to ask if I wanna go drink a beer for New Year's.
I found that pretty lame and declined.
I've got no plans that day though.
So this evening I asked my dad what he's gonna do and he then asked me and told me that I need to go to some party and have some fun. Maybe talk with some chicks.
If I'm just gonna sit at home watch TV or do Internet for New Year's, that's so depressing, I might as well just use the rope, he said.
...
Yeah, he really said that.

Well, I guess he's right to some extent.
But he's having this idealized view of me going out.
I've never ever done that.
All I know is that in day-to-day life I avoid people and people avoid me. I don't talk much. People don't like talking to me.
Some days I can be a bit more sociable, but most days -- no.
That's not guaranteed to happen just because I'm someplace where there's loud music and it's New Year's...
Besides. As some of you might know, I'm always here, sitting around and doing nothing productive or even non-productive that might allow me to reach common ground with "normal people".
"So what's your job, what are you studying and what are your hobbies?" is the worst question you can ever ask me.

Maybe I should just go drink a beer with my buddy and then aimlessly walk around or stay at home and watch TV or post on WP.
But I dunno.

I can guarantee it's not gonna happen if you stay at home.
Go out for a beer and stay for the kisses.

I declare no socialization on this, that, and those days.

You do realize you're free to pick other locales within our solar orbit to do your partying right?

I realized that I need a spaceship.

We're on one!

Ah, yeah.

I'd go if I were you. Loud, crowded places are annoying, but if you can tolerate it there are some advantages:

1. You will blend in because there are so many people.
2. Most people are drunk, so they can't tell whether or not you are weird.
3. Drunk people will be generally more friendly and willing to talk to you whether or not you have anything to say.
4. Drunk girls are less picky about the guys they choose, so being socially awkward may not matter.
5. Drunk people can be interesting to watch if you like observing human behavior. It's like watching Animal Planet or National Geographic. Except it's humans, not gorillas or elephants.

Gorillas and elephants don't like rotten grape juice.

Hermits of the world, UNITE! I get hassled all the time by my normal social type family because I am a hermit. Social people automatically think there is something wrong, or that you are weird if you are a hermit type of person. They always try to get you to conform, because anything or anyone who doesn't fit into their form of normal makes them uncomfortable. Also, social family members don't want the "stigma" of being related/associated with someone who doesn't fit the norm, so they will never stop trying to get us to conform--or to "fix" us. They can't comprehend that social situations make hermit type people uncomfortable, so we prefer to be alone most of the time. I am in my mid 50s and live alone, and I still have to put up with being hassled by my family. I am not anti social, just non social, but where my family is concerned, sometimes I do feel somewhat anti social, because they stress me out so much. I have no trouble accepting that most other people are social. I wish they would show us hermits the same courtesy.

As for your situation, if you want to go out--go. If you want to stay in--stay. If you want to go out, but the bar/club scene doesn't appeal to you, figure out what does, and then go there.

One of the worst things about Christmas and New Year is people trying to force you to 'enjoy yourself' when you're simply not made that way. December is a dark, damp, depressing time (in the northern hemisphere at least) that doesn't lend itself to jollity. Enjoyment can only be spontaneous, not imposed.

Ha. That's probably true. Gorillas do have many things in common with humans, however, and may enjoy the sensation of intoxication. I know somewhere I read that there are some animals that like alcohol.

Animals do hate spicy food though, if they have the ability to taste it. Only humans enjoy the sensation. There is speculation that it has something to do with food preservation, but I don't know for sure.