The world sounds rigged...

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Happy people want you to act happy, too, so that they don't have to think about the bad things. Unhappy people want you to be unhappy, too, so that they feel better about their unhappiness. Angry people want you to be angry, too, so that you can prolong their anger by fighting with them.

Is there any way to win?

Laugh when you're happy; cry when you're sad; scream when you're angry; and if nobody likes it, tell them to got to Hell!

If someone is making you feel a certain way that you don't want to, then get away from them. My Ma does this sometimes especially when I'm getting ready to go to work - we talk everyday and sometimes she'll be in a bad mood and I can't take that when I've got a long night of work ahead of me and I need to focus on that so I usually end the call before she puts me in a really grumpy mood. People tend to mirror the person they are around. I like to hang around more positive people.

Good, nurseangela.
I had forgotten that that was an option lol.
My dad can really drag the entire household down sometimes.

The way to win is to maintain your own emotional equilibrium.

Good advice.



That's what I try to do. Sometimes it seems like the only option is to turn off the computer, stay inside, and just read a book instead of talk to people.



It's frustrating to see. Even on some support websites, I feel like people are angry when others are happy or having success and try to rile them up, discredit it, or put them down.

I know what you mean with relatives, though. My mother is one of the chronically negative people in my family. They're upset or stressed pretty much every time we talk. I've started to tune it out over the years, but they'll take anything... shootings, terrorism, neighbors, traffic, work, immigrants, weather, restaurant service. They'll ask "Isn't that just weird?" in a loud voice or something to try to get others complaining and scared, too.

Ending a call or conversation early is really the only option sometimes. I try to be understanding because I have really bad periods, too, but there's a limit.

Exactly

If you decide to cry, however, don't forget this wise saying someone, at some point, already posted on these forums: