i want to have children!!

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recently, i'm spending so much time watching videos on how to raise children and i really feel it must be wonderful but at the same time very hard so i'm afraid of it, plus my genes are probably terrible. but it's so good to listen to people discussing how to make good human beings.

Many people with Aspergers/autism have kids who are "normal."

Just make sure you know that motherhood is a GREAT responsibility, and that it has irritations and pitfalls, as well as pleasures.

I've always wanted to be a father--but I was never sure I could be a good dad because of my selfishness.

I believe you should find a good man who would be a good father. It's much easier, overall, when there are two good parents.

but i have many allergies and an eye problem.


when i was with my ex-boyfriend, i also had this feeling very strong. specially because i'm sure he will make a very good father, he is very smart and patient, also i think it would be fun to know how our children would look like because we were very different physically

but since we break up, i hadn't really thought much about it. but now i found a very nice youtube channel about it and it's really interesting and i had this feeling building up again.

i know is a huge responsibility, i wouldn't plan to do it without a good and reliable partner. also i need more stability in life too. sometimes i'm afraid i never gather the best scenario for it and end up not having children.

i don't know. but it seems such a good challenge and a good way to create a human better than me.

My objective would not be to create a "better" human. It would be to create a "decent" human.

which is also fair.


the thing about someone better than me is that i feel i was a bit neglect as a child and a lot of my problems today i believe are due to this, i can't fix this things for me, but i wish if i have a children, i'll be able to not ler her go to the same things i went and i'm sure she will be better than me.

maybe that's not a good idea for having a children...

I understand what you’re saying.

It’s nice that you don’t want to repeat the mistakes of your parents. You want to give your child a better life than what you’ve had.

It’s a good reason to have a child.

Even before I heard of Asperger syndrome, I knew something was different about me. I'm not bad off myself but I was always afraid any children I had may have far worse problems. I would have loved them regardless, but I didn't want them to suffer. Now, I'm 53 and that's not an option anymore. I'm not even sure that any man would marry me now. I don't have a lot to offer.

I would like to work with children who have autism/Asperger's and counsel young people who feel different from others in some way. If I could have save the life of a bullied teenager and help them find a passion and reason to live, I would feel my own life would have some value.