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Gallia
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30 Aug 2018, 9:54 am

My new flat mate is chinese and, though he is well educated and smart, keeps coming up with WILDLY sexist comments. note: I hardly know the guy.

exhibit a)

someone asked me if I wanted to pursue a business career
he answered IN MY PLACE (like wtf) "no she can't do that"

exhibit b)

he went on a rant about how western women are bossy and eastern women, specifically Japanese, are more attractive to men because they are submissive. He also said in the UK there is more domestic violence (without providing a rationale to this statement which could just be more women report domestic violence. I am assuming his comment was to make it sound like eastern cultures are morally superior or some twisted s**t like that).


Should i (politely) tell him that I feel uncomfortable with him discussing these things and ask him to keep his thoughts to himself? or better not to antagonise him?



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30 Aug 2018, 9:55 am

I would tell him to sod off.



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30 Aug 2018, 10:17 am

Fnord wrote:
I would tell him to sod off.


ahah im trying to be diplomatic here. I just sent him a message to explain why his comments are perceived to be rude in the west. He actually did apologise for another comment (not included in the exhibits).


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30 Aug 2018, 11:22 am

Gallia wrote:
Fnord wrote:
I would tell him to sod off.
ahah im trying to be diplomatic here. I just sent him a message to explain why his comments are perceived to be rude in the west. He actually did apologise for another comment (not included in the exhibits).
I would still tell the bloody w*ker to fecking sod off.



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01 Sep 2018, 6:34 pm

Gallia wrote:
Fnord wrote:
I would tell him to sod off.


ahah im trying to be diplomatic here. I just sent him a message to explain why his comments are perceived to be rude in the west. He actually did apologise for another comment (not included in the exhibits).


I would just be very upfront with him when he says offensive things...and if it pertained to my demographic I would not be particularly friendly about it.



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01 Sep 2018, 6:47 pm

Chronos wrote:
Gallia wrote:
Fnord wrote:
I would tell him to sod off.


ahah im trying to be diplomatic here. I just sent him a message to explain why his comments are perceived to be rude in the west. He actually did apologise for another comment (not included in the exhibits).


I would just be very upfront with him when he says offensive things...and if it pertained to my demographic I would not be particularly friendly about it.


he's my age. He's actually been very apologetic about one comment he made and got me food the other day / seemed to genuinely feel bad. I tend to forgive quickly when food's involved ahah

i'm gonna keep wary tho and avoid "gender" chats


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01 Sep 2018, 10:08 pm

He sounds like an ignorant, obnoxious jerk. I believe that comes with the territory of being a misogynist. Don't allow him the pleasure of irritating you since his opinions are just that and not worth your time nor effort. Those sorts of people tend to hang on to their own biases with little to no regard for others.


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