I Hope I Am Not Too Much.

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I do tend to write too much when I start to write via internet sites. I am not on many sites. I find when I join a site they are busy, but then people dissapear and the site goes quiet. I am hoping it isn't me that causes that. If I am too much, someone say something... Thanks.

I enjoy reading your posts and I'm glad to have you here. You're always very kind, good humoured, respectful, and encouraging to everyone you talk with, and when you write about your hobbies, you always write as much about your enthusiasm as about the hobbies themselves. I've always rather enjoyed it when people write a few longer posts so that I can get a feeling for who they are a little bit more, and others here have said the same thing in the past. Getting a bit carried away, or veering off on a tangent now and then, rarely bother me - probably because I do it rather a lot myself (it is supposedly an autistic trait, after all!)

There are members here with countless different permutations of social and language skills, so while any of us might find a few people's posting styles difficult to get along with, it's only right that this is a place where we're tolerant of each other's differing ways of communicating - it's not always people who write the sweetest prose who have the most profound things to say.

I think you're far more likely to become a valued veteran of Wrong Planet than to scare everybody away! (unless we all get too much for you, of course! )

Thank you Trogluddite. Tangents are a trait of autism? I assumed it was the way my mind works. You have me thinking now. What if have been on the autistic spectrum all these years and I didn't know it? Would things have been any different if I had. Actually yes. But I wouldn't have achieved certain things like I have, but at the same time I would have avoided a whole lot of issues! Umm. Mixed feelings.

I think it falls into that grey area of executive functioning where autism and attention deficit conditions seem to overlap (or be co-occurring or whatever.) I seem to have two modes - total hyper-focus on a very specific thing, or loads of thoughts bouncing around my head but not being able to catch hold of one of them. Like all autistic traits, it'll be one of those things experienced a little bit differently by everybody, to different degrees, or not at all by some. Quite a few of the autistic people I know, including me, seem to be rather good at meandering from tangent to tangent until we've all forgotten what we started out talking about!


Yes. I still have very mixed feelings about it now, three and bit years after diagnosis - all the more so for realising that autism lay behind many of the long periods of mental illness that I experienced from my teens and throughout most of my adult life. People will say that the past cannot be changed, so we must come to terms with it and concentrate only on making the future better; and they're right, of course - but if you have a mind at all prone to rumination, it isn't always so simple to do in practice. It does ease with time, though - the "what ifs" don't plague me now anything like so much as they did at first.

There are many aspects I could have changed in the past, but my present outcome may be a very different place to where I am now. I firmly believe that God directs my paths. I mean... If I was supposed to be somewhere else by now then God would know about it. I believe this episode in my life of waiting to be assessed is meant to be. I am not patient as I want to know now etc! I have to be honest and say that I believe I am somewhere on the high functioning end of the spectrum, but for me apart from the embarissing moments caused by prosoprognosia (Which I knew I had for many years as my mum has it, and when I was about 16 to 17 I discovered I had it which came as a shock... But for me the most crippling aspect is the energy loss which I believe are partial shut downs as they play havock with my ability to work and do physical things. Yes, I do have good times when I am stress free and have days or even weeks with hardly any issues. However, lately it has been a few times a day, but if I stop whatever I am doing when I first feel them coming on and take a break I recharge and can get back out there, though I do need to go easy).
What I ask myself is am I making the connections up because I am so desperate to solve the energy loss issues? I don't think I am though. It is easy foe ones mind to play tricks. I mean... Even the most sound minds can do that and my mind is sound and stable (If I ignore hidden stress etc as to be honest, I sometimes find I am stressed because others see it more then I do, though I do now know what itis so I do feel it). I may think differently and be a bit of a "Missfit" in life.
Aspects like not liking or coping that well in crowded places... Well, I just avoid crowded places. Simple! It would only be an issue for me if I did the weekly shopping.
I have got worse though in the last 15 years though, as I seemed to cope better in my 30's. I now realize it was called masking. I also wore a mask where I would act thick to be able to socially interact. Umm. Haha. Well. There have been times when I am not acting! Haha! Oh, I just have to laugh! I am soo funny at times! I love the way God made me! Haha!

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Thanks Noca. I will.

Please bear in mind the natural gaps - when North America is asleep and before Australia come back on, for example. And then there are long weekends, when everybody seems to disappear. Don't take it personally!

Thanks Claradoon. Just me being concerned incase I scared people off! Yes. Naturally people have time zones ans other lives to keep etc.
I am enjoying this site and chatting to you lot.

Maybe you could go into a little more detail about what you mean by "energy loss"?

I now believe it maybe caused by a partial shutdown as a link someone gave me has something about motor (Motor as in body not as in car) which describes what I get and then they do mention about driving a car which describes what I get to a T.
I will look for it again as it is 0343am. I believe Squiggly7 may have similar symptoms?