Putting My Foot.In It.

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Is it just me that does this?

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Nooo. Is embarissing.

I have done. When I worked at a nursing home a few years ago, my friend's new boyfriend had got a job there. There had been a sickness bug going around and the nursing home had to shut while the epidemic was going around, but it opened up again not long after this man (my friend's boyfriend) had started. But one night I heard he'd been drinking and of course he phoned work the next morning telling them that he couldn't come in because he'd been sick. The boss was panicking because she didn't want the stomach flu to return, so I said, "don't worry, he was drinking last night so I assume it's just a hangover." But I realised after that I shouldn't have said that, because he was a friend of mine and it looked like I was snitching him up, and the nursing home hated irresponsible employees drinking the night before a shift. I wish I hadn't said anything at all, but I just wanted to reassure the boss not to have to close the home. I was really doing it for the good of the elderly patients that lived there.
Thankfully nobody said anything, the man was back the next day and the boss didn't tell him off or anything. But that could have escalated into a falling-out with my friend and her man, and being called a snitch by other co-workers, as nobody likes a snitch.

Not going to say my embarissing moment but I am sad that it happened. How can I turn back time?

My most recent spectacular one was with one of my wife’s friends who scrambled some of his brain functions with LSD when he was younger: he was round one night and joking about selling his brain to raise cash for his rent, so I piped up ”one careless owner”

[sarc] Yeah, because that was considerate of me. [/sarc]

I think I’ve made every person I care about cry at some point or other with unconsidered witticisms.
At least I don’t do it as often as my dad... ...which isn’t much to appease the sense of shame and guilt.

I think everyone puts their foot in it at some point. Autistic people, probably at a higher rate.

The important thing, if you’ll allow me to mix my metaphors, is to not leave your foot in. Being thoughtless is unavoidable and you shouldn’t beat yourself up for it. The very fact that you feel shame, guilt, and responsibility is evidence that you don’t actually need to. Being cruel is something else.

I walk around with it on my foot all the time.
Don’t beat yourself up, it happens.

On a daily basis

Either by being too honest or by my attempts at humour

To be honest most of the time both seem alright to me until I am informed that they are badly timed, insensitive or in poor taste

I stopped worrying about it some time ago

I did a terrible thing and I did not realize what I had done until later and it took me a while before I saw it.
A certain beautiful person sent me an ecard for my birthday. It has a train on it. A locomotive and a coach. I noticed a few small inaccuracies so I went to say nice card and I said that I can tell the one who made the card does not know much about trains...
It is only later that I realized that I had actually emailed the one who makes the electronic cards.
I really messed up and have not heard from either party. I am so sad. I never try to mess up. I am very sensitive to other peoples feelings. However I still mess up.

I could even be putting my foot in it by writing about putting my foot in it if that makes sense, as I was going to write of a past experience that happened over many years ago, and I thought better of it.

It is the case that "Don't do anything. If you do nothing, nothing will go wrong."
But sometimes doing nothing and things can go wrong anyway so one may and well try! (I mean not to try to do something wrong if that makes sense? As if I don't try to do anything wrong and it goes wrong then at least I am not trying to do things wrong because that will be stupid. Or I can try and do nothing, but get nowhere, and I still may have done something wrong by doing nothing when something could have been done... Uhmmm. Yes! Something like that. I've forgotton what I was talking about).

I know I put my foot in it quite aLOT throughout my life. I criticized presents I got for bDays & Christmas cuz I would prefer that others save their money instead of wasting it on things I do not want or need. I've made an a$$ of myself lots of time when I asked women out cuz I took what they said literally when they were rejecting me & kept suggesting things instead of just accepting their No response. I screwed up on job interviews. Some of my peers in high-school would ask me stupid questions that I would answer & they would laugh & I didn't realize that they were laughing at me instead of with me till I read some post on this forum by someone that it also happened to. I said lots of things when I was in elementary school & was trying to be funny that I did not fully understand like quoting Ren & Stimpy, & Beavis & Butthead & some people thought I was insulting them. I got accused of being a bully when I tried to joke with people. & I can go on & on.

I think part of my problem is that I'm direct & straightforward & don't understand lots of social things. Plus I have dyslexia & ADD & get things confused easily & I'm mentally slow at processing things(I probably have Sluggish Cognitive Tempo). I like to make people laugh but I screw up a bit & make people laugh at me instead of with me. They're not laughing with me cuz they think I'm trying to be funny; they laugh at me cuz they know I'm ret*d.