What social interaction would make you happiest?

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Here are 4 scenarios. Imagine they are with people you are comfortable with. Try to visualize it and search for something similar that you have experienced. Which one makes you feel most loved or happy?

1. You read a book that you truly enjoy. You recommend it to someone who reads it then tells you their favorite part and it is the same as yours.

2. You are walking home with someone and they are threatened by someone meaning to hurt them. You step in and protect them and the threat is dispatched. That night they give you a special gift that is very meaningful in thanks.


3. A group of people that you like but are quite different from you invites you to spend a weekend with them doing something you enjoy. They ignore your differences and focus on how you are like them.

4. You are at work and the boss comes to you and says "Your co-workers really look up to you so I want to put you in a place of leadership" (even with no raise)

I've been in all 4 scenarios. One thing is certain:

All of the above as long as my thoughts and intent matches my words and actions, than accidental or wondering how or why the heck just happened and why did I deserve (good AND bad) it.
That I'm truly in control, able to process everything and everything is clear.

If I'm just confused, overwhelmed and all over the place, I'd be too busy wrestling myself from the inside and see no reason to appreciate anything much.

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Whoops, I voted book before I read the OP.

It's hard to answer this, but number 4 is definitely not my answer.

I find number 1 difficult to imagine, and I think I would repress my emotional response for fear that the other person and I don't actually view the book the same way (which would lead to social disappointment, which I take a long time to recover from).

Number 3 seems like it would probably be my answer, but having multiple people I feel comfortable with, and being with all of them at once is also difficult to imagine. And hanging out with that many people at once would be overstimulating.

#3. Whenever people would invite me to do things with them in school and treated me normally it made me ecstatic, as that didn't happen often.

This is the initial inventory in figuring out what cognitive types people are.

Question = drive = social pleasure = grey to white matter ratio = neurotransmitter difference from acceptance = eusocial type

Book = understanding driven = feel loved when people understand you care = +grey matter = - dopamine = drone
Gift = trust driven = Feel happiest when you are a trusted protector = +white matter = - serotonin = soldier
Activity = acceptance driven = feel loved when a group accepts you = balance = balance = worker
Leadership = respect driven = feel happiest when people look up to you = balance = - nor-epinephrine ~ queen

none of those makes me feel loved. How is
- discussing a book
- being a leader
- spending time with people who see me in a wrong light (as being like them) or even a false sense of belonging
- someone feeling like they owe me something
related to love? none of those would generate happiness in me either

Well, I certainly have no interest in facing harm, so not the second option.
i have no interest in being a leader, so not the fourth option either.
I can't say that I wish to be with a group of people different to me for a weekend of 'watch weirdo play' either (can yuo say on display?). Noooo thank you. Also prefer fewer people anyway as well

I have recommended books and movies for my mother and she has liked them, and I do enjoy raving about something I like, whether it's a game, book, series, movie, or animal, and it's enjoyable to have someone sincerely rave along about the same thing. So the book option would be my best choice.

Of the given options, I think #2.

I would enjoy just saving the person from harm; the “gift” really would probably be anticlimactic.

I would enjoy a book the most. I wouldn’t want to be a “drone,” though.